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[wendwriter]

I was taught at Halt Abuse that the best way to keep drama out of my life is to ban the drama-mongers and not get into arguments with people - just ban them if they cause trouble for me.

Well, I brought that teaching into other areas of my online life, but trying to be subtle about it backfired spectacularly: I've gained a new hater and... I'll be

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[dawn_felagund]

I mean, really - why should I give prizes to people who mistreat me?

Wendy, with all due respect, I think that this sentence illustrates why people have a problem with your actions.

You are not giving prizes to anyone. You are providing a forum where other people can nominate and select those whom they believe should win prizes

[wendwriter]

What for, having an honest disagreement because you think I'm being unreasonable? I won't. It actually takes more than that to annnoy me, Dawn.

I'm beginning to see the other side, but I can't see a way out of where I'm at. I'm trapped. If I just cave in, what happens then? I want to find a way out of this that will stand and be considered acceptable. If the answer is to state clearly that I'll only accept nominations for those I regard neutrally, I'll gladly do so. No problem.

I can't argue with you, I just don't know how to get out of this in a reasonable way. If I just cave in, will that shut down the wank? Will it? If it does, I will.

It's occurred to me to make this a fully subjective thing, which I didn't want to do, but I don't really like the thought of doing that. What can I do?

[dawn_felagund]

I can tell you what I would do: I would allow the nominations like any other and say nothing more about it. Wankery loses its fun when the other half refuses to play. By refusing the nominations, you play into it; you make yourself a bad guy

[wendwriter]

//I can tell you what I would do: I would allow the nominations like any other and say nothing more about it. Wankery loses its fun when the other half refuses to play. By refusing the nominations, you play into it; you make yourself a bad guy

[rakshathedemon]

WendWriter, as far as I can tell; you have decided to ban stories written by fans who "wank" you from nomination to the Golden Quills. I'm not sure what "wank" means (I know it's a common term in fandom, I just never bothered to get a definition); but believe, from what Aearwen said and what you say here, that you have had online difficulties with the people whose stories you want to ban from the contest; you have said here that they "mistreat" you and imply that they have caused you trouble.

Please let me know if I have misrepresented your decision in any way. I have a decision to make and want to make sure I understand your position.

I am not trying to take sides in any arguments or disputes; merely trying to assure that I have seen and understood both sides of this matter. I have read Aearwen's LJ entry and will assume, unless you tell me differently, that she accurately quoted the email you sent to her. If you did not authorize her to make that email visible to others, then I will not ask her to forward it to me.

[rakshathedemon]

Wendy, I found this entry in your blog:

Last year, I set up a multi-fandom awards program to honour great fanfiction writers and their stories by offering nominations by genre. It worked really well and I got a fair few nominations. Winners were chosen by poll and everyone was happy

[wendwriter]

//I strongly believe that if someone is running a fanfiction awards competition, entries should only be refused if they break a rule pertaining to the story, not the author. Otherwise, it is not an open contest, it is a contest only open to those writers with which one has good relations.//

You're right, Raksha. End of. It's not an open contest and I won't say it is when it's not. I intended it to be open until I was caught on the hop. Now I'll have to restructure it. If you elect not to particpate, fair dues.