Post-Feminist help needed!!!

Feb 11, 2010 18:51

[context: I've been snowed in my apartment since Friday due to the worst blizzard in DC history. Today and Sunday were the only days that I could leave the apartment and that was just to go to the parking lot to dig out my car, but not drive bc the roads aren't plowed. Also, I'm PMSing. So drama and neuroticism are on high, influencing but not ( Read more... )

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elfy February 12 2010, 00:46:57 UTC
I think it's quite understable that you feel the way you feel. And I don't know if it's so much a feminist thing ... just imagine, you would have a female best friend and she would mean so, so much to you and you always feel like you wouldn't make it through some days without her ... if she on one hand said, yeah, we're best friends (as in, she sees it the same way), but on the other hand never tells you how important you are to her and that she needs you ... it would be just the same as with your boyfriend, or not?

Sure, independence is good and wanted, but after all we are just humans, looking for love and affection. And while you rationally know that you can trust him and that he is a fine guy, it would probably help you emotionally if he would show his affection more often ( ... )

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jo_alex February 19 2010, 15:16:37 UTC
Feeling like you are the only one in the relationship who 'really' cares sucks. However, what sucks even more is to realize later on that you weren't the only one who cared but the other person used other means to express his love or needed time to learn how to do it.

Be patient. Don't overanalyse every single word he uses. We, lawyers, tend to do it but outside the court it's not as useful as there. :)

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