Stampman Forever

[westhecrayon]

(Crossposted from Wesoteric, 'cause I figured you folks on my LJ flist might not have had your daily dose of creepy and creepier. :P The original post is here.)

Longtime readers and pals might recall my mother's HIV-positive stalker, whom I've taken to calling the Stampman because of the creepy animal stamps used to decorate greeting cards. Well,

Comments

[maxomai]

This is insane.

Y'all are documenting this shit, right?

[westhecrayon]

Of course! Not that it'll matter a ton -- it doesn't seem like there's a whole lot that can be done here until it's too late. :/

[skeletoncrew]

Definitely not much that can be done if your mom is still unwilling to take steps to protect herself (and you by default since you're living with her). I don't suppose he's said or done enough directly to you that you could get a protective order, has he?

[westhecrayon]

That I could get a protective order for myself, you mean? No -- I don't interact with this nutjob. Mom could probably get one, but she's obviously not concerned enough to go that route again.

[cynlee]

Jesus Christ, call the police, hire a lawyer, file some charges, sue his ass, do SOMETHING! My God, this has got to stop!

[westhecrayon]

Ah, but that would actually involve effort or concern on my mother's part! She finds the guy to be annoying and "crazy," but I really don't think she feels she's in any danger despite the fact that the Stampman has been totally obsessing over her for at least a year and a half now. Sigh.

[ebony_silvers]

Okay - stuff like this comes up all the time when I'm talking to my law enforcement and profiling friends.

1) You're absolutely correct that your mom needs to not talk to this creep at all! He's getting off on controlling her and that means making her afraid and making her talk to him.
2) Do all you can to get her to seek a new restraining order. I know sometimes it's really hard and some law enforcement doesn't understand how dangerous these types of individuals are.
3) Get her to change her phone number and keep it unlisted!

{hugs}

[westhecrayon]

Thanks for the advice, Ebs. Unfortunately, my mom's not afraid in the least, so that's the main problem with this situation. She almost didn't have the number blocked because it costs $5 per month to do it! And among other things, against all better judgment, she's continued to attend the same church as the Stampman. If she's not bothered enough to avoid being around him on a weekly basis, nobody's going to take her very seriously.

[ebony_silvers]

I'm afraid you're completely right, dearest.

[novacainekiss]

Get Vonage so noone can ever find your number ^-~

I had an ex being a stalker, we switched to vonage and now even the police don't have our phone number <3