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Hey all

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[perfectfigure]

This really depends on where you live.

There is a HUGE gay/queer community where I live, and I'm finding that just getting out there -- even in totally non-queer contexts -- I am meeting a lot of gay people. (It's funny when I'm at a specific queer event and keep running into people I met at the dog park, or an open mic, or whatever...)

But if you don't have time to even get out every now and then to meet some folks, how will you ever have time to have a relationship???

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I live in the SF Bay

I mean, I could make the time. Unfortunately the way my schedule works and how far away I work from home (not to mention that I live at home) makes it difficult sometimes...

[yah_bish_yah]

It sounds like an online dating site would be ideal for you. Or have a friend introduce you to someone.

[derflughafen]

I see you're using your Uranus to match my Super Sailor Moon? Touche

Also no more online dating plz :D haha

[yah_bish_yah]

I had to. :D

Online dating is so easy though (in terms of actually finding/meeting someone not forming a relationship). Sure it's rife with trolls & liars but you said you don't have the time or desire to go out. I don't see how else it's going to happen for you.

[derflughafen]

Yeah Ive pretty much only ever used online dating and it hasn't worked at all for me. I want to meet people in person, and I feel like there are other ways than clubs and bars, but I dont know what those are. And I dont have good enough friends who would introduce me to other gay ppl...

[spinel]

GO TO THE GYM AT A DECENT HOUR! THE HOTTIES DON'T GO AT 5 IN THE MORNING!

[cuzgarysaysso]

He said his job is emotionally, mentally AND physically draining, so he doesn't have to time to go to the gym to meet hotties, like you put it that way, at, say noon when he's probably at work.

[spinel]

bahahah! I know derf irl. He goes to the gym at 6am. Only old people go at that time haha. The hotties usually go in the evening.

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Bitch I go to the gym at 5am. And you've never met me "irl" so don't play!

And just because I see some hot people doesnt mean that Im gonna talk or be friends with them (let alone them being gay)

[cuzgarysaysso]

All I can just say is that you should take care of yourself first because that job sounds very taxing to your well-being and then I'm sure somewhere down the road, you'll meet the guy of your dream. Don't worry about meeting some guys just because you're lonely. Remember good things come to those who wait patiently.

[cuzgarysaysso]

Maybe you could ask your co-workers if they know any avilable cute gay guys and set up a blind date or something. Someone has to know someone. :)

[muddyslush]

I agree, except for the patient part. OP: it may be hard to get up the motivation to look for dating because that's not where your energy needs to be right now. It sounds like your life situation is not ideal for you, and to sort of paraphrase someone above---if you don't have the energy or motivation to date, you may not have the space in your life for a relationship. Work on getting your life the way you want it to look. Perhaps just focus on finding friends or social contacts instead of potential dates.

[cuzgarysaysso]

Yeah, nobody likes to have to be so patient, but think about it. A good example is that if you saw something really expensive that you really, really want, you'd have to pay a full price, but if you wait for a few months, it'll go on sale and you'd pay less for what it's really worth. For most gay men, they would be willing to pay at full price - just my opinion.

[18788]

You'll meet guys in law school.

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I better dammit