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esprix in whateverfaggot

Where to look

Oct 04, 2011 13:04

Having recently been dumped after an 8-year relationship, I find myself back in the dating pool, and it seems quite a bit has changed therein, specifically related to technology and social networking. So, to that end, I ask you all: Where/how are you meeting new people? Hooking up, dating, friends, community, whatever, I'm curious to know what ( Read more... )

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riotous_prole October 4 2011, 19:29:42 UTC

Aside from meeting in person, I have used Grindr and Jack'd. I HAVE met somewhat quality guys on these apps where we just become friends and nothing else.

esprix October 4 2011, 20:42:46 UTC

That's good to know. Where do you live? I think I'd have better luck if I didn't live 2 hours away from any sizable city.

riotous_prole October 4 2011, 22:54:04 UTC

I go between Sacramento and San Francisco quite often and and have met guys in both metro areas.

esprix October 5 2011, 13:41:53 UTC

Ah. Alas, the pickings are MIGHTY slim where I am, but at least it's good to know there are some quality folks using them. Thank you!

hippofatcow October 4 2011, 20:45:25 UTC

okcupid seems to be good for both urban and rural areas. lots of guys and laid back atmosphere.

greydruid October 5 2011, 05:45:53 UTC

Yep. I like OkCupid a lot.

esprix October 5 2011, 13:42:05 UTC

Oh, that's good to know. Thanks!

Dating thomas_allen88 October 4 2011, 23:43:40 UTC

OMG are we that hard up or desperate for "another lover" what you have to be resorting to phones and online sites. OMG. Personally what do think the last option (in person) the best. Now thinking what yes I'm sure somewhere is a well intended, good looking man "on line" or maybe what having the right phone some there but seems to me the "reach out and touch someone in person" not only lot safer but saves so much time while you work thru the "game" of online dating let alone the expense and disappointment what having to do it all over six months later, less course what just looking for "quick" love for the moment type fling. What looking at your profile, thinking here what your more a "in person" person and clearly knowing the disadvantages what there sure to be "man hunt or Craigslist" of all things let alone some of the others what you've listed ( ... )

Re: Dating maxdemon76 October 5 2011, 10:59:24 UTC

Um, can someone translate this for me please?? I really have absolutely no idea what it says.

Re: Dating king_duncan October 5 2011, 13:21:37 UTC

"Meet people in person, you might find a black dude like I did".

Re: Dating maxdemon76 October 5 2011, 13:33:52 UTC

Is that what that says? But what if I don't want to meet a black dude?

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maxdemon76 October 5 2011, 11:01:06 UTC

Also, give it all a whirl. See what it gives you. I've met two long term boyfriends (one 2+ years, and one current) on online dating sites, and you just have to give it a try. But you don't have to limit yourself to online. Try in person too! Just have a good time being single.

And if you have any sort of non-standard attractions, there is probably a website for that as well. All you need to do is look for it!

esprix October 5 2011, 13:51:33 UTC

Oh, I'm definitely not boyfriend hunting - I learned not to do that a looooooooooong time ago. I enjoy being single, and if I meet someone I like spending time with, I'll enjoy that, too. (My definition of dating is "spending time with someone to see if you want to spend more time with them." It works REALLY well for me.) I'm more looking for friends and community right now, which, unfortunately, is pretty scarce where I'm located (and yes, I'm working on relocating, but it's going to take a while).

And there's a plethora of places for me to meet my Asian bois. ;)

maxdemon76 October 5 2011, 14:14:12 UTC

Yeah that's how I approach things as well. Meet people, have fun, and see what happens. I mean, I did end up in two long term relationships that way. But I also met a lot of other non-long term relationships that way.

The funniest is probably the guy I was trying to pick up through Myspace. (RIGHT? Myspace!) We started emailing, and finally I got him to agree to meet me in person. While nothing happened there, mostly because this girl he was sleeping with at the time (yeah, he was bi) who was supposed to be a monogamous fuck buddy that he cheated on with a guy while he was away on vacation and that I ended up telling her about it because she was trying to "claim her man" and she kind of sprung it on me. Things were kind of heading toward sleeping together, but after that fiasco, we just remained friends. Anyway, we're still great friends, and I was one of his groomsmen at his wedding (no not to the girl in the story).

esprix October 5 2011, 14:40:20 UTC

It's stories like that that make me want to never date again. (Kidding! Hee!)

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badlydrawnmouse October 30 2011, 22:18:33 UTC

You could add "College/University" to that list, that's where I met my bf. If you're already done with school then you could always go take a class for knowledge sake, like sign language or something, and meet different types of people. (Also lots of gay guys take sign language lol)

esprix October 31 2011, 04:42:59 UTC

Well past the usual college age, but I do work at one. :) Fortunately the LGBT staff and faculty all know each other and hang out whenever we can, so that's a plus. And the undergrads are sure hot, but they're all rather younger than I, so they might be fuckable (not that there would be any interested in me, but fortunately there's no ethical problems if they were to), but not necessarily datable.

I appreciate the suggestion. :)

badlydrawnmouse October 31 2011, 11:50:17 UTC

Try the grad students then. ;) haha anytime <3