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Jun 16, 2011 17:54

[Public]I have a question to pose to the rest of you. This isn’t a condemnation of anyone aboard; I’m not judging the choices anyone has made. Or will make. It’s a product of my own curiosity, getting the better of me once again. This is particularly directed to the wardens, but I do welcome the inmates to weigh in, as well ( Read more... )

philosophical wiggle room, unscientific observation, out of my element

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thegooddrjones June 16 2011, 19:48:31 UTC
You don't choose who you fall for, Sarah, and I think that you're forgetting that. Love is love no matter where you find it.

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whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 19:51:58 UTC
I'm not forgetting it.

It just seems...

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Look. You and yours are able to leave together, right?

What about the ones who can't? Why would they bother?

And...what if, once Amanda graduates and shows interest in someone, they judge her based on her history? Would you give someone the time of day if they'd done the things she did?

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Private thegooddrjones June 16 2011, 19:59:21 UTC
We're able to leave together because we're making deals to do it. It's not a foregone conclusion and there was a lot of us arguing and trying to figure things out. We didn't even know if it was something that could happen for a long time.

And maybe because it's better to have loved someone for a little bit of time than not to have them at all.

I honestly don't know about Amanda, but that's probably because she threatened to kill me before. But in general I try not to judge someone based on their past.

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Private whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 20:02:08 UTC
You changed your deal to go with him?

Her death threats are generally not something I'd take seriously, by the way. Just so you know. If she threatened to test you, I'd be worried.

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grand_lotus June 16 2011, 20:00:56 UTC
Forgive me for answering a question with a question, but - why should any experience, any relationship, have the potential to be indefinite in order for it to be meaningful? Why would a romantic relationship necessarily be 'beyond' a platonic one?

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whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 20:04:21 UTC
I'm beginning to think this is less an issue of whether an experience should have the potential to be indefinite, and more of my own need to have a definitive goal at the end of every experience. I'm arriving at the conclusion that I'm very much alone in that I can't grasp why people would willingly have an affair here.

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grand_lotus June 16 2011, 20:15:45 UTC
I can speak only from my experience of the friendships I have forged here, but I would suggest it is because they consider the value of a relationship while it is happening to outweigh the pain suffered when it ends.

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whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 20:19:52 UTC
Fair enough.

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Private you_run_i_chase June 16 2011, 20:10:23 UTC
I started because I missed closeness. I broke it off with one person because she became a warden, and then I started it with Paddy when he was a warden, but we were friends first.

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Private whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 20:12:57 UTC
That's probably the most honest and least argumentative answer I've gotten so far.

Not to mention the most candid.

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Private you_run_i_chase June 16 2011, 21:27:57 UTC
Thanks. I'm glad.

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rayney_day June 16 2011, 20:52:43 UTC
Case by case basis.

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whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 23:21:54 UTC
For all of it?

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rayney_day June 17 2011, 05:54:32 UTC
Why not?

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whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 22:18:48 UTC
I'm beginning to wonder if I'm the only one here who actually made a deal, coming into this.

Thank you for being candid with me.

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whattheytellyou June 16 2011, 22:24:26 UTC
I've got a count of three or four others who don't or didn't have one.

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