Update *extended mix*

[whitecain]

Hey all,

Things are for the most part good with me right now. I just have one thing that I need to get off my chest and I warn you it is pretty nasty.

Comments

[lofwyr]

Or, you could just go. Pick a day when your parents aren't home, get a removalist team, a truck and a few friends and just clear out. The more you get, the faster it'll get done.

That sounds ultra-sucky.

[freyaw]

So... She's trying to make you feel guilty for their lack of money management skills.

Surely they can find a lodger to take your place if they're running that close to broke?!? It's not your fault they are incompetent. What they're asking you to do is subsidise their lifestyle. And I admit I'm biased because I come from a long line of people with decent money skills, but there is no way anyone in my family would take a house that they couldn't afford (even if only just) if something unexpected happened. If one of my parents died, for example, the other one would be able to afford the repayments of whatever mortgage they have. They'd have to cut back on luxuries for a while, but if disaster hit, they can cope. I'm also biased because of the difference between the housing market in Adelaide and in Melbourne - the last time I rented (we bought a couple of years ago), our two bedroom unit within short public transport of the city cost us $120 per week. And our mortgage repayments aren't much more than that on our inner suburbs two

[eratess]

I love you.

I really refuse to touch the rest of this situation again, because you know how I feel and what I think needs to happen. My guess is you're just going to hear more of the same from everyone else, given how the responses have started. At least this might prove to you that you do have support and people you can go to when and if you need them.

You know I forgive you for what happened between us. Everything's fine, so don't even apologize one more time or I will tell you to not go see the one Liz has a crush on. *grins*

Talk later, love.

[ravenseer]

*takes a deep breath*

As one of your older friends....

I think your family have taken it for granted that because of your eyesight you will remain at home forever, and not have the life skills to live independantly.

I really hate to say that, but it was something i thought back before, when we were hanging out all the time, watching the way your parents were with you.

The issue of taking a boarder is a fair one too, and you are an adult, and capable of making your decisions and with enough support to live how you want to.

I don't know if thats going to help any, and either way this is going to be messy I think, but there it is.

*hugs*

Its my guess no one on your flist will disagree, judging from Eratess' comment.

[asheraa]

I was about to say pretty much the same thing.

Hon, you are her son, not her pay check. She has no right to ask you for money after you move out, weather you have a job or not. Once you move out it is YOUR choice weather you offer monitary support to the family or not. Lets face it, who has the money with or without a job, to pay someone else's way?

If you need a had moving, I'll pitch in if humanly possible. I have a 4 wheel drive with a tow ball that has seen me through a few hasty moves. Just say the word.

Big hugs, stay strong. Remember, you have the power here or she wouldn't be laying on the guilt like this.

[ravenseer]

Another thought too - what did they think was going to happen if something happened to one of them?