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[whitelioncub]

I first want to start this off by saying I'm sorry. I haven't been on lj much and I feel bad for neglecting the friends I have here. It always seems when things get really bad that this is where I turn, and its not fair to keep doing this without being there for others

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[light_lion]

Honestly... if the person REALLY was going to be deported without $50, then I doubt he'd tell you that only after you told him you'd stop sending him money.

That's... him trying to take advantage and milk it for everything he can.

If he sends some nasty e-mail, then I'll PERSONALLY take care of it myself, should he decide to go that far.

You've done what you can for him. And beggers have no right to complain about being refused charity. You aren't obligated to do things for him dear cublet, and you've done what you can. After a while, he'll have to learn that he can't always come to you for things and stand on his own.

There's nothing to feel guilty for here. You tried and you can only try so long before he has to get the hint.

I'm not certain this is what you wanted to hear but... it's really what you should hear.

You've been a good friend to him by doing what you have.
Now he has to also be a good friend and respect you as one as well without just viewing you only for what you can do for him.

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[whitelioncub]

*hugs* that's probably true, I don't even know if it really was for his deportation or not. I don't want to think that he's been using me, but he probably has.

[ghostlion]

You are not a bad person for not continually handing cash out.
Promise.

[whitelioncub]

Thankies ghosty, that actually put things in perspective for me *hugs*

[pawzhusky]

Kind of like everyone else said, but I'll tack on something here that may sound a little more harsh:

If potential life crises are hanging on such small monetary increments, the person needs to get their act together. The whole potential scamming thing aside, if this person were serious about things, they would have put your money to good use a long time ago and made themselves a better person.

*hugs* I totally understand your being busy and all, sweetiecub. I'm about to take as much of an online hiatus as I possibly can as well. The work is just simply too much.

I'll be thinking about you.

[whitelioncub]

*nodsnods* he does need to get things together, he went to the phillipines without much of a plan at all, or any money. *hugs* send me emails n stuffs, I don't wanna not see any pawzy at all!

[suede_bear]

well to me...as if my opinion merits being written down, even on e-paper, but it certainly sounds as if you were being milked for cash.

For all you know and in all probability he has/had several people continually sending him money. After-all, whats the average income in the phillipines?, 900bucks U.S?, something paltry like that.

[whitelioncub]

*nods* its something really really low, he opened up a farm though now. He got the money from his boss

[diaper_dog]

*hugs*

I see some good comments here, can't think of anything that hasn't already been said except it's understandable if you stopped checking your e-mail for a while after turning the guy down. Though the others are right to say he had no right to complain if he was really in need of charity.