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[whitemochafrapp]

So yesterday was my big 24th birthday!! It was great, lots of fun, lots of feeling like a princess haha. I would write more, but I'm at work and I just need to send this little part out: I got to work this morning and my dad had emailed me yesterday. Grrr. He said "Happy 24th. I think about you everyday. I look forward to the time you email

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[toffeenutlatte]

If he write back again, simply respond with something like, "Due to your past upsetting behavior I do not wish you pursue a relationship with you at this time." Don't say never, because someday you might want to, and because 'never' will just make him regress even further into child-like behavior. It was nice of him to wish you happy birthday, like every father should, but don't feel obligated to continue communication if it will upset you.

Let me know how it goes.

[whitemochafrapp]

Thanks for the support...he did write back saying he was so happy that I'd decided to email him again, like of course thinking that it was my choice when really, it was him that made the decision and I simply complied with it. Then he said "When are you getting married? Am I invited?" and I was like ahhhhhh because I already decided not to invite him, but its harder to say no if I am sorta talking to him because then we'll discuss it, you know? If we're not talking, I don't have to tell him anything

[toffeenutlatte]

I don't think inviting him to the wedding is a good idea. Don't get me wrong, it is your choice and I will support you in whatever you decide. However, knowing your history with him, I would hate for him to make a scene or do something foul that would cause trouble for you on YOUR day. If he was a respectuful and loving father he would understand why you make the choices you do, even if that includes not communicating with him. It may be painful for him, and for you as well, but you have to maintain the boudries with which you are comfortable. Your father sounds as if he has a manipulative streak, whether or not it is intentional. Either way, it's unhealthy.

Someday you and your father may be able to move past what has happened. Or you may ultimitately decide to have nothing more to do with him ever again. Your choice, your life, your future, and your happiness. Look out for yourself, and try not to let your father's up-and-down behavior bother you.

[toffeenutlatte]

btw, anonymous is me. I forgot to log on as toffeenut