I am a woman who's never wanted children: in fact, I had myself sterilized in my late 20s and have since developed a uterine fibroid that would make having a child impossible.
And I have NEVER found that a hindrance to my creativity as an artist and as a writer.
This actually touches on a bit of a sore spot for me: the idea that women, unless we're having babies, are somehow incomplete. That might be true for certain people, but some of us have fertility and fecundity that is not tied to our uteruses and ovaries. Please understand that I'm not trying to belittle your experiences -- wanting children so badly and not being able to have them must be torture -- BUT, I do want to point out that creativity =/= physical fertility. If you're having trouble completing projects, I (as a professional artist) would hazard a guess that there's possibly a problem with your work methods and your discipline as an a writer, and that you should look to improving those.
Lol the lack of snark is appreciated. I was really mostly interested in what other's thoughts were on the connection between the physical and astral bodies. I fully realize I'm not my uterus...just be assured that not all girls who want kids think that way. I've had alot of time to distance myself the "I can't have kids so I'm not a woman" stigma. This was just something that popped into my head recently...I've never made the correlation before but to me it's interesting to think about.
Gender is an interesting issue for me! As a TS girl, I only have one sex chromasome so...girl by default? Lol. That said, I've had enough hormone treatment that I fully identify as woman. I also don't feel any less woman for not being able to have kids naturally. It's sucks that I can't, but I've learned that that's not where my value lies. It's hard to explain to someone who can have kids but I don't want them because it's socially what I should do...Idk, when you have to struggle for something you want, it really makes you evaluate the "why". Lol...but I'm sure at some level I've come to equate fertility with creativity. That said, I can see where something else is the culprit here. This was just an idea that popped in my head. I've heard a lot about the connection between the physical and astral bodies and wanted to see what others thought.
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And I have NEVER found that a hindrance to my creativity as an artist and as a writer.
This actually touches on a bit of a sore spot for me: the idea that women, unless we're having babies, are somehow incomplete. That might be true for certain people, but some of us have fertility and fecundity that is not tied to our uteruses and ovaries. Please understand that I'm not trying to belittle your experiences -- wanting children so badly and not being able to have them must be torture -- BUT, I do want to point out that creativity =/= physical fertility. If you're having trouble completing projects, I (as a professional artist) would hazard a guess that there's possibly a problem with your work methods and your discipline as an a writer, and that you should look to improving those.
I wish you the best of luck.
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I'm not my uterus and my uterus has absolutely no bearing on what I do or don't do.
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I was really mostly interested in what other's thoughts were on the connection between the physical and astral bodies.
I fully realize I'm not my uterus...just be assured that not all girls who want kids think that way. I've had alot of time to distance myself the "I can't have kids so I'm not a woman" stigma. This was just something that popped into my head recently...I've never made the correlation before but to me it's interesting to think about.
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I also don't feel any less woman for not being able to have kids naturally. It's sucks that I can't, but I've learned that that's not where my value lies. It's hard to explain to someone who can have kids but I don't want them because it's socially what I should do...Idk, when you have to struggle for something you want, it really makes you evaluate the "why". Lol...but I'm sure at some level I've come to equate fertility with creativity.
That said, I can see where something else is the culprit here. This was just an idea that popped in my head. I've heard a lot about the connection between the physical and astral bodies and wanted to see what others thought.
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