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wickedrad79

Sugar Daddies and other Money Solution Fantasies

Jan 14, 2009 14:56

Over on Slate's XX Factor blog, there has been an interesting discussion about the phenomenon, or the fantasy, of landing a sugar daddy. I'm sure there are a bazillion variations on this fantasy (and sometimes it is a real "plan" for some) and the motivations behind it are complex. Is it purely a financial consideration that happens to fit into ( Read more... )

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lietya January 14 2009, 20:26:04 UTC

I'll put you on the list for if I become a bazillionaire ( ... )

wickedrad79 January 14 2009, 20:29:31 UTC

I agree. That's not to say that if I do eventually marry someone who would rather do most of the thinking about our health insurance and 401(k), etc, etc, (and is competent at it), I would mind so much... but I've never expected anyone to swoop in an save me from having to be responsible for it myself!

(If I see "occupassion" turning up in your book...)

lietya January 14 2009, 20:42:42 UTC

I'm a-gonna do my level best to fend it off. ;) Well, not really, but at least I'll scream inside my head ( ... )

wickedrad79 January 14 2009, 20:52:27 UTC

Right. And at some point I believe that was part of the discussion as well. What happens when that arrangement ends?

It is normal to expect (or at least not completely discount) responsibilities and bread-winning to shift in proportion throughout the span of a "normal" marriage. When one spouse is entirely dependent on another (for anything) and does not anticipate that changing, that person is only setting him/herself up for serious struggle if not disaster!

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firynze January 14 2009, 21:15:05 UTC

I would not mind it at all if I happened to marry someone wealthy. I just wouldn't do the gold-digger route and seek someone out specifically because of their wealth...

indigosarah January 14 2009, 23:34:00 UTC

This post reminded me of an article I read earlier in the year on Alternet: http://www.alternet.org/sex/77923/. (I haven't read it in a long time, so it may not be talking about the exact same kinds of relationships as the Slate piece.)

wickedrad79 January 14 2009, 23:44:42 UTC

Wow. It isn't exactly the same kind of arrangement they were talking about, but that is an interesting article! I wonder if the ladies at Slate have seen it...