I need some advice please :)
Please help me with this situation? It's about a friend I have with ME and depression.
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Okay, well this year I moved school for my A levels, and I have this friend there who suffers with depression and ME. Quite recently, I'd say about 5 weeks ago, I went to her house for the first time, we watched a movie then went upstairs where we talked for about 5 hours about depression and eating problems and we found out how much we had in common, it all resulted from a text I sent her accidentally, which Iwas horrified about at the time, but after our talk, I was quite glad as it'd let her know and opened up alot.
Recently, she's not been at school, i haven't seen her for about 3 weeks, maybe more since it's been the easter holidays too. I've texted her a few times, because she's a friend really. She's got one best friend who's really close to her and a few other friends including me.
Over the holidays, she blew me off a couple of times when I invited her out, saying she was busy... I was a little annoyed because I think she was lying and just wanted to be left alone, I even said to her that it;s not helpful to hide away and she denied it.
Anyway, she ignored a few of my texts recently so I texted her a few nights ago something like 'Hey :) I know something's up, I hope you're okay but I can tell you're not fine at the moment. I'm here if you want to talk. We said we'd be there for each other and i'm sorry that i've not been holding true to that'
she texted back something like 'fine. I'm not okay. I'm relapsing, i'm cripplingly exhausted and I'm really depressed. I've got anxieties about school so I can't face it at the moment.'
There were only a few texts after that, but she was very short and basically said she appreciates the offer but doesn't want to talk and she wants to be left alone. She didn't reply to the text I sent saying that I'm here if she just wants to chill, I don't expect her to want to talk, but Im here if she wants that or just to be a friend. Or the one I sent yesterday asking if she'd seen the new Harry Potter yet (she was talking about wanting to see it a few weeks ago )
I don't know what to do, she's completely shutting herself off and I am REALLY worried :/ I mean, she can't be completely honest about wanting to be left alone, because she eventually replied? Also, I thought about popping over, it'd be weird considering we're not that close but I have a CD she lent me so I could just go over with that and a movie and ask if she wants to hang out,? problem is, that might make her angry if I just turn up..I really don't understand her and it's constantly on my mind.
I just want her to know that I really AM here, i'm not just saying it and going to desert her in a couple of weeks if she keeps ignoring me.
Any Ideas?
and if you read this, thank you very much... it was awfully long.
Thanks xxxx
Under the cut :)
Okay, well this year I moved school for my A levels, and I have this friend there who suffers with depression and ME. Quite recently, I'd say about 5 weeks ago, I went to her house for the first time, we watched a movie then went upstairs where we talked for about 5 hours about depression and eating problems and we found out how much we had in common, it all resulted from a text I sent her accidentally, which Iwas horrified about at the time, but after our talk, I was quite glad as it'd let her know and opened up alot.
Recently, she's not been at school, i haven't seen her for about 3 weeks, maybe more since it's been the easter holidays too. I've texted her a few times, because she's a friend really. She's got one best friend who's really close to her and a few other friends including me.
Over the holidays, she blew me off a couple of times when I invited her out, saying she was busy... I was a little annoyed because I think she was lying and just wanted to be left alone, I even said to her that it;s not helpful to hide away and she denied it.
Anyway, she ignored a few of my texts recently so I texted her a few nights ago something like 'Hey :) I know something's up, I hope you're okay but I can tell you're not fine at the moment. I'm here if you want to talk. We said we'd be there for each other and i'm sorry that i've not been holding true to that'
she texted back something like 'fine. I'm not okay. I'm relapsing, i'm cripplingly exhausted and I'm really depressed. I've got anxieties about school so I can't face it at the moment.'
There were only a few texts after that, but she was very short and basically said she appreciates the offer but doesn't want to talk and she wants to be left alone. She didn't reply to the text I sent saying that I'm here if she just wants to chill, I don't expect her to want to talk, but Im here if she wants that or just to be a friend. Or the one I sent yesterday asking if she'd seen the new Harry Potter yet (she was talking about wanting to see it a few weeks ago )
I don't know what to do, she's completely shutting herself off and I am REALLY worried :/ I mean, she can't be completely honest about wanting to be left alone, because she eventually replied? Also, I thought about popping over, it'd be weird considering we're not that close but I have a CD she lent me so I could just go over with that and a movie and ask if she wants to hang out,? problem is, that might make her angry if I just turn up..I really don't understand her and it's constantly on my mind.
I just want her to know that I really AM here, i'm not just saying it and going to desert her in a couple of weeks if she keeps ignoring me.
Any Ideas?
and if you read this, thank you very much... it was awfully long.
Thanks xxxx