So I didn't mention two things the last time I posted...
One - I went out with Ori (the Ex) to play pool last friday.
It wasn't so much fun. He nagged and nagged at me to go out already (platonically) but I was waiting for an answer from my best friend to see if she and I were maybe going out that night. By the time she called me back with an answer (that she and I wouldn't be going out that night, so I could go with Ori), he no longer had a car so I had to drive. I went to pick him up from his town, then all the way to Tel-Aviv to the pool bar.
We had a few blah games and then gave up. The problem was, he wanted to do like 3 more things after the pool game - eat a burger (at fucking midnight!), watch a movie, go back to his place for coffee. I'd already told him at the beginning of the night that I didn't want to do all those things in one night, but he kept asking, and pouted when I refused to change my mind. He used to do this while we were dating too, and it really annoyed me. I was tired, it was late, and I'd have to drive. I pay for my own gas; he doesn't (it's his dad's car).
So he might be angry with me for 'not going along' but you know what? Fuck him. If this - being Just Friends with him - is going to be the same as dating, and without the physical aspect of it? Forget it; not worth it. It's just the emotional neediness, which I had enough of the first time around and which is why it didn't work out between us anyway.
I will give him it another chance, though. Maybe we both need to chill out a bit.
You know what, fuck, no, I will not chill out. He needs to know the next time we go out, that if he suggests 3 things in one night and I say no, then I mean no. NO MEANS NO.
Gah. Gonna make this crystal clear the next time we go out.
Two -there's a guy at Salsa who I'm sort of flirting with, and we went out last night.
He's short but so very confident in himself that it's attractive on the one hand but irritating on the other hand. He's a very good dancer and I have fun with him at the salsa parties and during our LA Medio course. He almost always zeroes in on me the minute the lesson starts, and wants to dance with me first. It's kind of cute, and flattering. We trade a lot of witty banter and flirt all the time, insult each other, kind of this love-hate relationship thing. He added me on FB a while ago and we chate once in a while.
He invited me to his birthday party last week and even though I told him it wasn't my sort of party (hot tubs and saunas, no thanks...) he kept saying I should come and asked me several times. I was almost leaning towards going but he was so confident that I'd come and I wanted to prove him wrong. Play hard to get, as it were - if he was interested in me.
Last night we chatted on FB again and he asked if I played pool. I said I did, and we went out to play at a place next to the salsa club. He kicked my ass, but we had a really good time. He's a very fun guy. He tried to teach me some techniques but really I don't necessarily play to win, I play to play :P
It wasn't like a romantic date. Just two friends shooting some pool. He didn't lean in too close or say anything that sounded like he was interested in my romantically. I honestly don't know if I'm disappointed or not XD I didn't go with any expectations, and honestly I'm not sure if I want to date someone from salsa, because there's always the chance that it won't go well and I'll have to keep seeing him. It's already happening with two guys, i really don't need it happening with this guy too, he's smug enough as it is ><
We hugged and kissed on the cheek when we met and when we parted, and talked and laughed a lot. Lots of witty banter and some innuendos. Frankly, this is the stage of dating I like most. It's what comes after this stage that bugs me. So maybe it's even better if it stays platonic and friendly with this guy. He's pretty fun as a friend and fuck but I need more friends. Even guy friends.
I think I'm gonna invite him to my (still-in-planning) birthday party :) I wonder if he'll come. I'm planning a Tim Burton movie marathon night while my parents are abroad - this guy once suggested (over FB chat) that I watch a Disney movie - specifically Aladdin - when I told him I was sick. He might be into Tim Burton too :)
It wasn't so much fun. He nagged and nagged at me to go out already (platonically) but I was waiting for an answer from my best friend to see if she and I were maybe going out that night. By the time she called me back with an answer (that she and I wouldn't be going out that night, so I could go with Ori), he no longer had a car so I had to drive. I went to pick him up from his town, then all the way to Tel-Aviv to the pool bar.
We had a few blah games and then gave up. The problem was, he wanted to do like 3 more things after the pool game - eat a burger (at fucking midnight!), watch a movie, go back to his place for coffee. I'd already told him at the beginning of the night that I didn't want to do all those things in one night, but he kept asking, and pouted when I refused to change my mind. He used to do this while we were dating too, and it really annoyed me. I was tired, it was late, and I'd have to drive. I pay for my own gas; he doesn't (it's his dad's car).
So he might be angry with me for 'not going along' but you know what? Fuck him. If this - being Just Friends with him - is going to be the same as dating, and without the physical aspect of it? Forget it; not worth it. It's just the emotional neediness, which I had enough of the first time around and which is why it didn't work out between us anyway.
I will give him it another chance, though. Maybe we both need to chill out a bit.
You know what, fuck, no, I will not chill out. He needs to know the next time we go out, that if he suggests 3 things in one night and I say no, then I mean no. NO MEANS NO.
Gah. Gonna make this crystal clear the next time we go out.
Two -there's a guy at Salsa who I'm sort of flirting with, and we went out last night.
He's short but so very confident in himself that it's attractive on the one hand but irritating on the other hand. He's a very good dancer and I have fun with him at the salsa parties and during our LA Medio course. He almost always zeroes in on me the minute the lesson starts, and wants to dance with me first. It's kind of cute, and flattering. We trade a lot of witty banter and flirt all the time, insult each other, kind of this love-hate relationship thing. He added me on FB a while ago and we chate once in a while.
He invited me to his birthday party last week and even though I told him it wasn't my sort of party (hot tubs and saunas, no thanks...) he kept saying I should come and asked me several times. I was almost leaning towards going but he was so confident that I'd come and I wanted to prove him wrong. Play hard to get, as it were - if he was interested in me.
Last night we chatted on FB again and he asked if I played pool. I said I did, and we went out to play at a place next to the salsa club. He kicked my ass, but we had a really good time. He's a very fun guy. He tried to teach me some techniques but really I don't necessarily play to win, I play to play :P
It wasn't like a romantic date. Just two friends shooting some pool. He didn't lean in too close or say anything that sounded like he was interested in my romantically. I honestly don't know if I'm disappointed or not XD I didn't go with any expectations, and honestly I'm not sure if I want to date someone from salsa, because there's always the chance that it won't go well and I'll have to keep seeing him. It's already happening with two guys, i really don't need it happening with this guy too, he's smug enough as it is ><
We hugged and kissed on the cheek when we met and when we parted, and talked and laughed a lot. Lots of witty banter and some innuendos. Frankly, this is the stage of dating I like most. It's what comes after this stage that bugs me. So maybe it's even better if it stays platonic and friendly with this guy. He's pretty fun as a friend and fuck but I need more friends. Even guy friends.
I think I'm gonna invite him to my (still-in-planning) birthday party :) I wonder if he'll come. I'm planning a Tim Burton movie marathon night while my parents are abroad - this guy once suggested (over FB chat) that I watch a Disney movie - specifically Aladdin - when I told him I was sick. He might be into Tim Burton too :)