Real Life update.
Hmmm... I don't quite know why, but for the past week or so I haven't felt the urge to post anything. I haven't spent much time on LJ in general - it just feels like there's nothing interesting online. But some stuff has gone on in Real Life Land, so just in case anyone's interested, here it is... :)
Things with Ron are great. He says he's not good at the relationship stuff and that he has problems with intimacy, but so far I'm not seeing it. He's not afraid to hold hands in public, or to come stand behind me and hug my shoulders/stomach - he's totally not afraid to show people we're - well, I hesitate to say 'in love' , but certainly enamored of each other :) He kisses me often and we joke a lot, and we've just been spending a lot of time together. I find myself missing him if we're apart for more than half a day - it's ridiculous!
As for physical intimacy, we've taken a step back. I was the one to ask for it, since I sort of, um, caught something... let's just say there was itching, and daily need for a pantyliner :X I didn't exactly tell Ron I had something, just that maybe we were going a little fast, physically, and we should tone it down a little bit. I said I wanted to go see a doctor, and get Pills. This was after Tuesday!salsa, we were on the way to his place, and since every time we'd been alone together late at night we'd instantly gotten to fooling around, I wanted to say it before we reached his place. Ron smiled and laughed sheepishly, and said he totally agreed, and had been about to suggest the very same thing. Not about the Pills - about cooling things down. He said we really did rush into things quite quickly, and because we started out as friends and then suddenly things got physical, we'd never actually gone on a date together!
So, a date it was :) He begged his dad for the car for a night, and we went out to dinner and a movie. We'd wanted to see Crazy, Stupid, Love but we arrived kind of at the last minute so there were no tickets. We saw Abduction instead. It was, eh... let's say, we had fun laughing at some of it. But some of the action/suspense things did get me - I jumped a few times, Ron was amused.
And fuck me but I nearly got all kinky in the theater XDDDD I was wearing a dress and I had a scarf around my shoulders, the long pashmina-shawl kind, and since I was cold I tucked my feet up and covered my knees with the shawl too. Now, we were in the front row and Ron's hand was on my knee and then on my thigh, and I soooo wanted to take his hand and pull it up higher. He would have gone along with it, too, and thought I was awesome for doing it. Ron loves shit like that - when I do or say something slightly indecent or taboo - guys are turned on by that sort of thing, so long as we don't take it too far and get slutty. I confessed that I'd wanted to do it as we were walking out of the theater - he said "Yeah, I noticed, and it kind of turned me on. Next time huh? ;) "d
After the movie we met up with friends at a pub called Siesta which we go out to a lot - most of the Salsa Mob people were already there, and we just rounded up the group :) We had a good time, and since Ron was finally, finally driving, I could drink!
I didn't have all those shots, of course - just one of the Tequila :P Oh and also a chaser of Bad Apple, which is my favorite liqueur. After that we danced - and this time, it wasn't a weekday with the pub nearly empty. The pub was packed, and we danced up on the stage in front of everyone!! Half a year ago I never would have done something like this. It was amazing!
This is me after all the alcohol and dancing and general awesome feelings of the night kicked in...
Ron was pretty cool with me drinking - I mean, who doesn't like a girl who can drink? ;) He just generally thinks I'm very cool. On Friday we went out again with friends, to bowling and billiards, and Ron and I kicked two guys' asses at pool together :D Whenever I got a good shot in, or he did, we kissed. Even when I mess things up, I laugh at myself, and he likes that too. He calls me stupid in an affectionate way, and for some reason I really like it :)
This is everyone at the bowling alley (sans Ron, of course; he was the one who took the pictures...)
And me grinning at Ron when he photographed me playing pool:
Seriously, Ron and I kicked ass at pool together. He kissed me when I said I want to play against him sometime, to see who would win :D
Ever since Saturday I've had a cold, so on Sunday I stayed home to rest. On Monday my lessons in Industrial Design started at 6B! I was so excited :D I met up with my mom for coffee and cinnamon-rolls before, and then the lesson began at noon. As usual I spoke up almost twice as much as everyone else, but I just can't help it. It was sort of daunting, and actually I'm having a little crisis of faith here... Our homework assignment is due on Monday (read: has to be finished in 24 hours; preferably even tonight, because if I need to print anything, my mom'll have to print it out at work because our printer died) and I am totally clueless. We have to design (in sketch only; not physically) one of 3 things: an awakening device, a device that can measure anything we like, or a "time-killer". And I. Am. Stumped. Totally failing here. Ai... help :(
After the lesson I went over to Ron's, and together we went to see a photography exhibition in which Karen was showing a photo - it was a competition presented by the photography course Ron also went to, and my favorites won exactly in the order I predicted! :) Karen's pic wasn't one of them, but at least we came to support her. After that Ron and I went out to dinner (yay, second date!) and he told me his whole Army story. The Army is a pretty important part of most Israeli people's lives; it's a period when you grow up and learn about yourself. He had a bit of a hard time at first, got tossed around a bit and kicked out of Officer's course (not his fault; someone misquoted him and his course commander was a bitch who hated him) but eventually he found his place and had a good time. It was the most I'd ever heard him talk in one evening, and it was great to learn more about him. Exactly what the dates are supposed to do!
Unfortunately, he also wanted to go to Tel-Aviv to return a camera lens to a friend, and since I wanted more time with him, I came along. But I was really tired, had a long day, plus the food made me sleepy, so I was pretty catatonic the whole way to Tel-Aviv and back. When we got back to Ron's place he woke me up all tenderly, and thanked me - which was weird - when I asked, "What for?" He replied, "I think falling asleep in the car while someone else is driving shows that you trust the other person with your life." which sort of made me awwwww.
On Tuesday and Wednesday I stayed home (in the evenings; I did go to work in the mornings) to recuperate, because on Thursday one of the salsa guys was having a birthday party at the beach :) It was really fun, we brought mats and food and he organized a generator and lights and music - unfortunately, the generator died - it literally went up in flames - after about 20 minutes, so we were left in the dark with no music....... so the guys got some bits of wood together, sacrificed Gil's roll of toilet paper, and lit a fire :) That gave us light, and also occupation, but unfortunately we had nothing to put over/in the fire - potatoes or marshmallows - but we did have coffee and tea, which was also fun. We left the beach at around 3AM and I spent the night at Ron's. We're still not fooling around - I said I was too tired, but honestly I'm just waiting for the treatment to end - I took my last pill (for the infection) the next day when I got home, and when I get my period next week I'll start taking the Pill.
(Going to the gynecologist was nerve-wracking and embarrassing, but hey, it's gotta be done. I went specifically to a women's clinic in one of the nearby settlements, it's a religious settlement so all the doctors are female. Technically, since I'm a virgin, the doctor didn't want to physically examine me, but I was really worried about the infection so she said she'd have a look. Gah... I guess it wasn't so bad... she was nice... and once I finally do have sex, I'm gonna have to go back again and then she will physically examine me... ahh, fun. At least I got treatment for the infection - feels all cleared up by now, btw! - and Pills)
Today was Yom Kippur - quite literally, Day of Atonement. Nobody works, public transportation is down, nobody drives (the streets are clear, so people go out on foot and ride bikes around) nothing on TV/radio. Most people fast and go to Synagogue and pray for forgiveness for all the sins they committed during the year, and all the people they hurt. It's tradition to also apologize face-to-face or over the phone - unfortunately, nowadays people post it on Facebook and it's just ridiculous. Personally I think it's bullshit - fasting and 'torturing yourself' isn't going to make up for things you've done wrong or hurt people, and also, apologizing at one specific time for a year of wrong-doing is just stupid. I don't believe in fasting, and I'm generally not into religion. But I respect the tradition and I don't eat in front of people who fast, I don't drive, etc. I do, however, listen to music and watch movies - because basically, that's about all there is to do.
All the salsa people got together in their town (2 towns really, but most of them are from one town, Ron's town, the town the salsa club is in) and I really wished I could also go hang out with them, just walk around the city and talk, but there was no way to get there, unless I just stayed there from the morning... but never mind, maybe next year :)
Ron is going abroad with his family for a week on Monday (to Italy!! I wish they could take me too!!) so tomorrow he and I are maybe going on a picnic... should be nice :)
Work is shut down right now - because of Yom Kippur, and then Sukot holiday is right after that - we won't be working again until the 26th. And in fact, I don't even want to go back to work - my specific work - then. The book-loaning project is really falling to pieces, I pity all our customers. I really should start looking for a new job. I've sent out one CV to a company one of my friends said were looking, and there's another place I'm considering... eh. We'll see. But in general, it's been half a year, and my current workplace just really really sucks and I hate it. So, time to move on. Wish me luck :)
Things with Ron are great. He says he's not good at the relationship stuff and that he has problems with intimacy, but so far I'm not seeing it. He's not afraid to hold hands in public, or to come stand behind me and hug my shoulders/stomach - he's totally not afraid to show people we're - well, I hesitate to say 'in love' , but certainly enamored of each other :) He kisses me often and we joke a lot, and we've just been spending a lot of time together. I find myself missing him if we're apart for more than half a day - it's ridiculous!
As for physical intimacy, we've taken a step back. I was the one to ask for it, since I sort of, um, caught something... let's just say there was itching, and daily need for a pantyliner :X I didn't exactly tell Ron I had something, just that maybe we were going a little fast, physically, and we should tone it down a little bit. I said I wanted to go see a doctor, and get Pills. This was after Tuesday!salsa, we were on the way to his place, and since every time we'd been alone together late at night we'd instantly gotten to fooling around, I wanted to say it before we reached his place. Ron smiled and laughed sheepishly, and said he totally agreed, and had been about to suggest the very same thing. Not about the Pills - about cooling things down. He said we really did rush into things quite quickly, and because we started out as friends and then suddenly things got physical, we'd never actually gone on a date together!
So, a date it was :) He begged his dad for the car for a night, and we went out to dinner and a movie. We'd wanted to see Crazy, Stupid, Love but we arrived kind of at the last minute so there were no tickets. We saw Abduction instead. It was, eh... let's say, we had fun laughing at some of it. But some of the action/suspense things did get me - I jumped a few times, Ron was amused.
And fuck me but I nearly got all kinky in the theater XDDDD I was wearing a dress and I had a scarf around my shoulders, the long pashmina-shawl kind, and since I was cold I tucked my feet up and covered my knees with the shawl too. Now, we were in the front row and Ron's hand was on my knee and then on my thigh, and I soooo wanted to take his hand and pull it up higher. He would have gone along with it, too, and thought I was awesome for doing it. Ron loves shit like that - when I do or say something slightly indecent or taboo - guys are turned on by that sort of thing, so long as we don't take it too far and get slutty. I confessed that I'd wanted to do it as we were walking out of the theater - he said "Yeah, I noticed, and it kind of turned me on. Next time huh? ;) "d
After the movie we met up with friends at a pub called Siesta which we go out to a lot - most of the Salsa Mob people were already there, and we just rounded up the group :) We had a good time, and since Ron was finally, finally driving, I could drink!
I didn't have all those shots, of course - just one of the Tequila :P Oh and also a chaser of Bad Apple, which is my favorite liqueur. After that we danced - and this time, it wasn't a weekday with the pub nearly empty. The pub was packed, and we danced up on the stage in front of everyone!! Half a year ago I never would have done something like this. It was amazing!
This is me after all the alcohol and dancing and general awesome feelings of the night kicked in...
Ron was pretty cool with me drinking - I mean, who doesn't like a girl who can drink? ;) He just generally thinks I'm very cool. On Friday we went out again with friends, to bowling and billiards, and Ron and I kicked two guys' asses at pool together :D Whenever I got a good shot in, or he did, we kissed. Even when I mess things up, I laugh at myself, and he likes that too. He calls me stupid in an affectionate way, and for some reason I really like it :)
This is everyone at the bowling alley (sans Ron, of course; he was the one who took the pictures...)
And me grinning at Ron when he photographed me playing pool:
Seriously, Ron and I kicked ass at pool together. He kissed me when I said I want to play against him sometime, to see who would win :D
Ever since Saturday I've had a cold, so on Sunday I stayed home to rest. On Monday my lessons in Industrial Design started at 6B! I was so excited :D I met up with my mom for coffee and cinnamon-rolls before, and then the lesson began at noon. As usual I spoke up almost twice as much as everyone else, but I just can't help it. It was sort of daunting, and actually I'm having a little crisis of faith here... Our homework assignment is due on Monday (read: has to be finished in 24 hours; preferably even tonight, because if I need to print anything, my mom'll have to print it out at work because our printer died) and I am totally clueless. We have to design (in sketch only; not physically) one of 3 things: an awakening device, a device that can measure anything we like, or a "time-killer". And I. Am. Stumped. Totally failing here. Ai... help :(
After the lesson I went over to Ron's, and together we went to see a photography exhibition in which Karen was showing a photo - it was a competition presented by the photography course Ron also went to, and my favorites won exactly in the order I predicted! :) Karen's pic wasn't one of them, but at least we came to support her. After that Ron and I went out to dinner (yay, second date!) and he told me his whole Army story. The Army is a pretty important part of most Israeli people's lives; it's a period when you grow up and learn about yourself. He had a bit of a hard time at first, got tossed around a bit and kicked out of Officer's course (not his fault; someone misquoted him and his course commander was a bitch who hated him) but eventually he found his place and had a good time. It was the most I'd ever heard him talk in one evening, and it was great to learn more about him. Exactly what the dates are supposed to do!
Unfortunately, he also wanted to go to Tel-Aviv to return a camera lens to a friend, and since I wanted more time with him, I came along. But I was really tired, had a long day, plus the food made me sleepy, so I was pretty catatonic the whole way to Tel-Aviv and back. When we got back to Ron's place he woke me up all tenderly, and thanked me - which was weird - when I asked, "What for?" He replied, "I think falling asleep in the car while someone else is driving shows that you trust the other person with your life." which sort of made me awwwww.
On Tuesday and Wednesday I stayed home (in the evenings; I did go to work in the mornings) to recuperate, because on Thursday one of the salsa guys was having a birthday party at the beach :) It was really fun, we brought mats and food and he organized a generator and lights and music - unfortunately, the generator died - it literally went up in flames - after about 20 minutes, so we were left in the dark with no music....... so the guys got some bits of wood together, sacrificed Gil's roll of toilet paper, and lit a fire :) That gave us light, and also occupation, but unfortunately we had nothing to put over/in the fire - potatoes or marshmallows - but we did have coffee and tea, which was also fun. We left the beach at around 3AM and I spent the night at Ron's. We're still not fooling around - I said I was too tired, but honestly I'm just waiting for the treatment to end - I took my last pill (for the infection) the next day when I got home, and when I get my period next week I'll start taking the Pill.
(Going to the gynecologist was nerve-wracking and embarrassing, but hey, it's gotta be done. I went specifically to a women's clinic in one of the nearby settlements, it's a religious settlement so all the doctors are female. Technically, since I'm a virgin, the doctor didn't want to physically examine me, but I was really worried about the infection so she said she'd have a look. Gah... I guess it wasn't so bad... she was nice... and once I finally do have sex, I'm gonna have to go back again and then she will physically examine me... ahh, fun. At least I got treatment for the infection - feels all cleared up by now, btw! - and Pills)
Today was Yom Kippur - quite literally, Day of Atonement. Nobody works, public transportation is down, nobody drives (the streets are clear, so people go out on foot and ride bikes around) nothing on TV/radio. Most people fast and go to Synagogue and pray for forgiveness for all the sins they committed during the year, and all the people they hurt. It's tradition to also apologize face-to-face or over the phone - unfortunately, nowadays people post it on Facebook and it's just ridiculous. Personally I think it's bullshit - fasting and 'torturing yourself' isn't going to make up for things you've done wrong or hurt people, and also, apologizing at one specific time for a year of wrong-doing is just stupid. I don't believe in fasting, and I'm generally not into religion. But I respect the tradition and I don't eat in front of people who fast, I don't drive, etc. I do, however, listen to music and watch movies - because basically, that's about all there is to do.
All the salsa people got together in their town (2 towns really, but most of them are from one town, Ron's town, the town the salsa club is in) and I really wished I could also go hang out with them, just walk around the city and talk, but there was no way to get there, unless I just stayed there from the morning... but never mind, maybe next year :)
Ron is going abroad with his family for a week on Monday (to Italy!! I wish they could take me too!!) so tomorrow he and I are maybe going on a picnic... should be nice :)
Work is shut down right now - because of Yom Kippur, and then Sukot holiday is right after that - we won't be working again until the 26th. And in fact, I don't even want to go back to work - my specific work - then. The book-loaning project is really falling to pieces, I pity all our customers. I really should start looking for a new job. I've sent out one CV to a company one of my friends said were looking, and there's another place I'm considering... eh. We'll see. But in general, it's been half a year, and my current workplace just really really sucks and I hate it. So, time to move on. Wish me luck :)