what it was for (a piece on subbing)
hi,
well, this all might as well be fiction, since none of it happened, yet, but I'm not opposed to the concept.
this deals with bondage, and other adult topics.
I once had a piercing. A Madison they're called, in the front of my neck. Most Madison's are barbells, and they're on the sides of the adams apple. Mine was a 6 gauge ring between my clavicles.
Now, surface piercings are touchy things, and mine eventualy rejected, but it had a purpouse, even if it never healed well enough to find that purpouse.
You see, a conventional collar is a neet thing, I should imagine (having never been collared myself) One can be jerked around a little, and led where to go, and one has the option of fighting back, at least a little, and being forced into whatever situation. This is great for remembering who's in charge, and feeling like a little kid again... kinda.
but it's not the best type of power play I believe. Or perhaps best isnt the proper term. Perhaps it's just that there are diffrent horses for different courses.
Allow me to suggest that another, equaly neat form of bondage is one where control is different. Percieved, not physical. Where you are commanded to sit, to undress, etc, and without being touched, without so much as making someone raise their voice, just by their tone, they can control you. It's not that they're manipulating you, because you both know whats going on. You both want it. You both consent. But he controls you. You have already established who is in control, and from this point onward, it's almost a point of pride that he has this level of control over you. To make you kneel at his feet, and have him play with your hair whilst he goes about his business. To bring him his things, or start working on his shoulders when he gets tense without so much as a word. I feel that this is a different level, and one I would love to be a part of at some point in my life.
and so it is, a ring through ones flesh can not be tugged on, and it certaintly can't be used to jerk someone around. But it can be used to tie the thinnest of strings to. Kite string or it's equivelent. And to sit there, on ones knees, dressed only in a Sarong, while master held a string connected to you in such a way. He could rip the piercing straight from your neck if he was not carefull. Man... what a trip. And so, that is what was in my mind, regarding the piercing. Maybe I'll get another one some time. I don't know.
But what about becoming that domme? for me, I think I should like a bit of physicality. I love sparring. I should like to learn grappeling some time soon. I think that grappeling with a lover would be erotic beyond all belief, to be caught in that struggle, and watch as it became a game, and then perhaps something else.
Then again, maybe that's something for boys, and master need not be involved in it. Perhaps a subtle twist of the wrist, or a squeeze on the shoulder when he wishes to convey something. a change in voice is sufficient. then again, maybe the physicality is different. Pinning your arms above your head while he kisses you, pushing you to the floor infront of him, aserting who he is, taking from you the power that you willingly give. then again, maybe it can be done without any of that. the traditional Semme/Uke relationships always have a natural flow wherein one just IS Semme and the other just IS uke. I don't think it's AS simple in real life, but it could be, I suppose.
I don't know.
well, this all might as well be fiction, since none of it happened, yet, but I'm not opposed to the concept.
this deals with bondage, and other adult topics.
I once had a piercing. A Madison they're called, in the front of my neck. Most Madison's are barbells, and they're on the sides of the adams apple. Mine was a 6 gauge ring between my clavicles.
Now, surface piercings are touchy things, and mine eventualy rejected, but it had a purpouse, even if it never healed well enough to find that purpouse.
You see, a conventional collar is a neet thing, I should imagine (having never been collared myself) One can be jerked around a little, and led where to go, and one has the option of fighting back, at least a little, and being forced into whatever situation. This is great for remembering who's in charge, and feeling like a little kid again... kinda.
but it's not the best type of power play I believe. Or perhaps best isnt the proper term. Perhaps it's just that there are diffrent horses for different courses.
Allow me to suggest that another, equaly neat form of bondage is one where control is different. Percieved, not physical. Where you are commanded to sit, to undress, etc, and without being touched, without so much as making someone raise their voice, just by their tone, they can control you. It's not that they're manipulating you, because you both know whats going on. You both want it. You both consent. But he controls you. You have already established who is in control, and from this point onward, it's almost a point of pride that he has this level of control over you. To make you kneel at his feet, and have him play with your hair whilst he goes about his business. To bring him his things, or start working on his shoulders when he gets tense without so much as a word. I feel that this is a different level, and one I would love to be a part of at some point in my life.
and so it is, a ring through ones flesh can not be tugged on, and it certaintly can't be used to jerk someone around. But it can be used to tie the thinnest of strings to. Kite string or it's equivelent. And to sit there, on ones knees, dressed only in a Sarong, while master held a string connected to you in such a way. He could rip the piercing straight from your neck if he was not carefull. Man... what a trip. And so, that is what was in my mind, regarding the piercing. Maybe I'll get another one some time. I don't know.
But what about becoming that domme? for me, I think I should like a bit of physicality. I love sparring. I should like to learn grappeling some time soon. I think that grappeling with a lover would be erotic beyond all belief, to be caught in that struggle, and watch as it became a game, and then perhaps something else.
Then again, maybe that's something for boys, and master need not be involved in it. Perhaps a subtle twist of the wrist, or a squeeze on the shoulder when he wishes to convey something. a change in voice is sufficient. then again, maybe the physicality is different. Pinning your arms above your head while he kisses you, pushing you to the floor infront of him, aserting who he is, taking from you the power that you willingly give. then again, maybe it can be done without any of that. the traditional Semme/Uke relationships always have a natural flow wherein one just IS Semme and the other just IS uke. I don't think it's AS simple in real life, but it could be, I suppose.
I don't know.