Yeah, well... at least I'm not alone. I mean, I know that. I keep talking to people who feel just like that. But still, it's something that I'd like to understand, if only because people seem to find this thing called love so important.
I think that the problem is that the answer is so different for different people - and often enough for the same person but different objects of love - that taking an average smears out any meaning.
Besides: Yeah, the line between love and friendship is not a clear one. I prefer to see it as a continuum. And the exact word used depends on too many factors once again.
I agree. Especially since, as far as I'm concerned and that's just theory, a relationship can't be based on love alone and work out, there has to be friendship there as well. On the other hand, I can love friends quite dearly as well.
So how is it that people ever figure out that they want to be in a relationship with "that person"? How can they tell that they're in love? I think I'm waiting for a little pop up to make sure I won't miss it. XD
The point is, probably, that you can love someone, but being in love with someone means you want to get intimate with this person, too.
So if you want to get intimate with someone, and you like him/her very much, than it's love. And after all I've heard, you do notice it when you want to do someone.
As for knowing when people want to be in a relationship - they apparently never know. They just go along with what feels right until it either doesn't work out or, well, it does. With all my friends, it never did up to know.
And after all I've heard, you do notice it when you want to do someone.
I certainly hope so. XD
They just go along with what feels right until it either doesn't work out or, well, it does.
I don't like the uncertainty. Plus, I always know more reasons for why it wouldn't work than the opposite. But that's really just part of the problem. ^^;;
I can't really help you here, but I got some point in my life where I thought I was in love - and I noticed there's a difference between crushing on someone and loving him/her. I was constantly thinking about the person, getting agitated/blushing around them, could spend hours talking to him, it was important to me that he complimented me, I loved his eyes/smile/lots of other things about him I forgot
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Probably "friends with benefits" know it's nothing serious? (they won't be sad if the other cheats on them? it's not that important to them?)
The problem with the different fields of love and attraction is, supposedly, that it depends highly on the individual definition. People see things differently, and define the differences between "love", "crush", "relationship" and the such diffently. @___@
Really, if it would be easy, people would know when it's really love and will work out and wouldn't get confused by their feelings so very often! A whole genre of literature is based on this, damnit. XD
But I know what you mean, as I elaborated, I never have felt the urge to get intimate and it always appalled me. :/ I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out. There is something wrong with us, but I think there's worse and at least we're not crying on the phone on regular intervals because we got dumped/had a fight with our boyfriend or whatever...
I guess you're right. There is no universal definition, so my search for one is very much in vain. Ú_Ùx
I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out.
Same here! <3 I have a friend who's really confused because of this. How can someone be so fixated on porn on one hand, while explicitly dismissing sexual intimicy. XD;;;
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*has exactly the same "problem"*
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I mean, I know that. I keep talking to people who feel just like that.
But still, it's something that I'd like to understand, if only because people seem to find this thing called love so important.
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Besides: Yeah, the line between love and friendship is not a clear one. I prefer to see it as a continuum. And the exact word used depends on too many factors once again.
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Especially since, as far as I'm concerned and that's just theory, a relationship can't be based on love alone and work out, there has to be friendship there as well. On the other hand, I can love friends quite dearly as well.
So how is it that people ever figure out that they want to be in a relationship with "that person"? How can they tell that they're in love?
I think I'm waiting for a little pop up to make sure I won't miss it. XD
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So if you want to get intimate with someone, and you like him/her very much, than it's love.
And after all I've heard, you do notice it when you want to do someone.
As for knowing when people want to be in a relationship - they apparently never know. They just go along with what feels right until it either doesn't work out or, well, it does. With all my friends, it never did up to know.
/babbling a lot about stuff I know nothing about
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I certainly hope so. XD
They just go along with what feels right until it either doesn't work out or, well, it does.
I don't like the uncertainty. Plus, I always know more reasons for why it wouldn't work than the opposite. But that's really just part of the problem. ^^;;
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I was constantly thinking about the person, getting agitated/blushing around them, could spend hours talking to him, it was important to me that he complimented me, I loved his eyes/smile/lots of other things about him I forgot ( ... )
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But, if love really *was* all that I listed under friendship combined with sexual intimacy, what are "friends with benefits"? =/
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The problem with the different fields of love and attraction is, supposedly, that it depends highly on the individual definition. People see things differently, and define the differences between "love", "crush", "relationship" and the such diffently. @___@
Really, if it would be easy, people would know when it's really love and will work out and wouldn't get confused by their feelings so very often!
A whole genre of literature is based on this, damnit. XD
But I know what you mean, as I elaborated, I never have felt the urge to get intimate and it always appalled me. :/
I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out.
There is something wrong with us, but I think there's worse and at least we're not crying on the phone on regular intervals because we got dumped/had a fight with our boyfriend or whatever...
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I think I'm just in love with gay (fictional) people making out.
Same here! <3
I have a friend who's really confused because of this. How can someone be so fixated on porn on one hand, while explicitly dismissing sexual intimicy. XD;;;
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