Oh, I know this... I actually had this situation quite a few times, especially when I get to know male friends, we get along so well, and suddenly they start to get me presents and make me feel so awkward along the way... I suspect they might be in love with me then, so why won't they just tell me so I can tell them how I really feel?
"so why won't they just tell me so I can tell them how I really feel?" Because they're afraid of how you really feel. :/ People don't take rejection well, especially when they love someone who doesn't love them.
Everything you said. I wish I could send a signal that clearly says "If you are developing a crush on me, please don't bother. It has nothing to do with you as a person, and I like you, I just don't seem to fall for anyone." without having to actually TALK about it.
But somehow people never get the more subtle messages, when you just try to indicate SOMEHOW that you have no romantic interest in them. It makes things so difficult.
"If you are developing a crush on me, please don't bother. It has nothing to do with you as a person, and I like you, I just don't seem to fall for anyone."
THIS. EVERYTHING. ♥
But yes, I hate having to talk about these things. I feel like I'm being the bad guy and the pressured party at the same time.
Honestly, I think you're being just a wee bit insensitive here. I know how annoying it is to have people you're not into crush on you but aren't you even mildly flattered that he is?
You're not even sure if he is crushing on you, by the sounds of things but if he is for sure, I dunno. I wanna tell you to give it a chance but it's your life, your friendship. All I can do is be a shoulder to cry on if things get bad. :(
I suppose it is flattering and the guys in question were always very nice about it and everything. It's just that I can't outright tell them "no" until they've stated their intentions openly, and till then it's just vague hinting on both sides when I just really want to go back to being friends and be done with it. =(
Whenever I try and think about how it'd be to try having a relationship my heda comes up with a dozen reasons why this or that guy would never work out for me. I know I have issues in that department, like, a whole lot of them.
Plus, if relationships really are all about subtle hinting, I'd probably suck at them anyway. ^^;;
If you visualize the worst, the worst will happen. You're really setting yourself up for failure, you know? I've gone in thinking the worst and I've been surprised many times.
I think you're just being a little apprehensive. Give it a shot if he ever does ask you out and if it doesn't work out, at least you can say you gave it a chance.
You make it sound so easy! The mere idea of being with someone scares the shit out of me! And then there's my head reationalizing that I don't have the time anyway and that dating sounds just boring and that our interests don't really match and... >__<;;
I guess it's really hard to confess to someone. But isn't the whole not really knowing worse? I don't know...
I always give friendship a try! =) I'd hate to think that friendship should suffer because of love, that would just be stupid. It's a compliment, to think that someone likes you that much. It's awkward, but it should not be bad. I think. Hell, what do I know.
It's hard. Damn hard OTL I've done it three times in my life and ... one would think it's getting easier, but it's actually getting harder every time ... at least it was like this for me
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I think that's the best confession: a mutual one, where both feel the same. =)
And yes, friendship should be able to survive a confession. I guess I'd go for distance for a little while, just to be sure both sites had time to adjust, but after that I see no reason why one couldn't go on being friends.
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so, you are definitely not alone with this.
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Good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way. XD
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Because they're afraid of how you really feel. :/ People don't take rejection well, especially when they love someone who doesn't love them.
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I wish I could send a signal that clearly says "If you are developing a crush on me, please don't bother. It has nothing to do with you as a person, and I like you, I just don't seem to fall for anyone." without having to actually TALK about it.
But somehow people never get the more subtle messages, when you just try to indicate SOMEHOW that you have no romantic interest in them. It makes things so difficult.
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THIS. EVERYTHING. ♥
But yes, I hate having to talk about these things. I feel like I'm being the bad guy and the pressured party at the same time.
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You're not even sure if he is crushing on you, by the sounds of things but if he is for sure, I dunno. I wanna tell you to give it a chance but it's your life, your friendship. All I can do is be a shoulder to cry on if things get bad. :(
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Whenever I try and think about how it'd be to try having a relationship my heda comes up with a dozen reasons why this or that guy would never work out for me. I know I have issues in that department, like, a whole lot of them.
Plus, if relationships really are all about subtle hinting, I'd probably suck at them anyway. ^^;;
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I think you're just being a little apprehensive. Give it a shot if he ever does ask you out and if it doesn't work out, at least you can say you gave it a chance.
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The mere idea of being with someone scares the shit out of me!
And then there's my head reationalizing that I don't have the time anyway and that dating sounds just boring and that our interests don't really match and... >__<;;
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I always give friendship a try! =) I'd hate to think that friendship should suffer because of love, that would just be stupid. It's a compliment, to think that someone likes you that much. It's awkward, but it should not be bad.
I think. Hell, what do I know.
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And yes, friendship should be able to survive a confession. I guess I'd go for distance for a little while, just to be sure both sites had time to adjust, but after that I see no reason why one couldn't go on being friends.
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