I'm a sledge hammer.

[winhall]

I realize a lot of people are extremely self conscious about their bodies, mostly because our society seems to be obsessed with the idea that being even a little overweight is a catastrophe of nuclear proportions. I can see where that might put pressure on people, because "looking pretty" (and a very specific kind) is made out to be very important

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[rocks_not_dead]

What did you say

[winhall]

I realize people are being bullied because of their weight. I've been bullied all the way through school, because I didn't fit in - for whatever reason. I don't want to do that to anyone. I did grow a thicker skin through all that, but it also left me with issues I could sincerely do without.

No, what happens is that I say something that in my opinion is something perfectly normal to say, dunno, like how I wear a belt or my hair for god's sake, that I went shopping for shirts, or that I wish conventions would start producing girlie shirts for their staff.
Then I get reactions like "yeah, well, you would say that, seeing how you're thin". And I feel annoyed, because should I stop saying stuff like that only because they don't apply to people who aren't thin? Do thin people not get to complain about stuff, or just remark on things anymore

[rocks_not_dead]

We ALL have issues from being bullied, believe me. And people can't control what they feel offended by

[winhall]

I do believe it's wrong to make fun of people because of their looks (or most anything, really, but especially something they can't do much about). And aside from friendly banter among friends I'd never do that.

But I hate it when people try and turn the meaning of what I said around, or make my statement about an issue it wasn't about in the first place. When I complain about the lack of girlie shirts, because XL looks horrible on me, that's really all I do. I don't imply everyone else is automatically better of, just because they're not thin or not a girl or whatever.
("One size fits all" only means that we all fit inside that big shirt. We might all look stupid, but it certainly fits, somehow.)

But yes, I guess it is better in the long run if people make it clear they're offended. Sometimes I think I need a little voice inside my head telling me that something I said was "a bit not good", because I often don't think things through. And I'm not above apologizing when I realize that what I said really was offensive and mean,

[sparrowlicious]

Meh. Es ist schon schwierig.
/:

[winhall]

Sehr!
Ich will ja auch niemanden verletzen, aber ich hab auch keine Lust, jeden kleinsten Kommentar erst durch ein Raster von möglichen Triggern laufen zu lassen. =/