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[winstonsbitch]

Last night my dad told me I wasn't truly a feminist; I was just deluding myself. Yep. That happened. In the process of some other story I was telling I mentioned that someone who was in training for the priesthood tried to kiss me but I was like, no, and the point was that he was cool about it and not a tool. And then my dad got on this tirade

Comments

[jookitcz]

Taking cues about feminism from some random woman might not be less silly than taking them from a Republican Catholic priest, but I think you are a very good and thoughtful feminist, and can't imagine a context in which your dad's statements would make much sense.

[mrsvelvetears]

Maybe I just don't get the whole, I dunno, Catholic culture, but I'd figure that if this priest-in-training tried to kiss another woman, she would feel compelled *not* to go along with him. Because, you know, he's a priest (or close to it).

If he wasn't physically intimidating you, I don't really understand what the problem is. I'm sure it was an awkward situation, but not a dangerous one. Anyway, the way I figure it, a true feminist should assume that other women can look out for themselves, that they don't need the Catholic Church, or any other authority, to step in when there isn't an obvious danger.

[samchuck]

I would just agree with both of the other posts. I think that your judgment is probably better than your father's in this situation. Priests are human, and do feel sexual feelings. As long as he wasn't threatening or trying to use his authority as influence, then I think it's no big deal.