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Oh yay, annual annoying AEB post.
I gotta agree with LE on this, but relationships where one person is substantially older than the other are deeply messed up, whether the older person is male or female. In either case, and in either person, the attraction to someone much younger than you, or to someone much older, is based on serious flaws in your own personality.
If you're the older person, then you're rejecting someone who would be your intellectual and experiential equal in favour of what is, no matter how smart that person might be, essentially bubble gum.
(And possibly a prettier package - honestly, what kind pf person would really want that, long term?)
And if you're younger, you're basically doing it based on arrogance, and outright, appalling arrogance at that. You are so unique, so special, so smart and so mature, that your understanding goes far beyond that of your peers. They could never understand you. What you need is someone older, someone who's experienced so much more, in order to understand you, to be your equal.
The older person desires a teeny-tiny ego and intellect, while the younger person believes themself to be possessed of an epic, unmatched intellect. In either case, it's all about ego. And in neither case is it healthy.
I gotta agree with LE on this, but relationships where one person is substantially older than the other are deeply messed up, whether the older person is male or female. In either case, and in either person, the attraction to someone much younger than you, or to someone much older, is based on serious flaws in your own personality.
If you're the older person, then you're rejecting someone who would be your intellectual and experiential equal in favour of what is, no matter how smart that person might be, essentially bubble gum.
(And possibly a prettier package - honestly, what kind pf person would really want that, long term?)
And if you're younger, you're basically doing it based on arrogance, and outright, appalling arrogance at that. You are so unique, so special, so smart and so mature, that your understanding goes far beyond that of your peers. They could never understand you. What you need is someone older, someone who's experienced so much more, in order to understand you, to be your equal.
The older person desires a teeny-tiny ego and intellect, while the younger person believes themself to be possessed of an epic, unmatched intellect. In either case, it's all about ego. And in neither case is it healthy.