when worldviews collide

[wisechoices]

Many thanks to those of you who have expressed your condolences on the death of my father.  My family and I appreciate them very much

Comments

[contentlove]

I'll tell you what we do traditionally in my world when someone dies. We hold one hell of a memorial that involves getting together, bringing things that were important to the person who died or things that remind us of them, making a big altar/display of it with plenty of pictures, and then we all tell anecdotes and stories about the person. We invite everyone, including people from all different areas of the person's life in so much as we know about. In so doing, we all often learn more about the person than we knew before they died, and when it works really well, we get a sense of the whole person. It's generally revelatory, and I recommend it. Have lots of good food and some strong liquor on hand, and plan to cry and laugh and learn things and go home satisfied. I have yet to see it fail. Call it whatever you wish - it crosses all religious boundaries in my view, because it's about celebrating the person's life and laying a good foundation for memorializing them well with as much information as possible

[contentlove]

Although I wouldn't object to a mass, either ;)) Whatever works. It's not for me, it's for the people who are left. I'll be long gone.

[brutalmix]

i understand what you're going through it is really tough to find something to consol you based on your faith without intruding on the faith of another. maybe you should write something yourself, as long as it's coming from your heart i'm sure your father will appreciate it even if the family doesn't understand.