Comments | wiserabbit: ADHD/ADOS and Why I suck at people.

wiserabbit

ADHD/ADOS and Why I suck at people.

Jan 10, 2015 22:08

I've not posted here for a long time, but I need to cry, to post and to talk for a long time, and thought that this would be the best place to do it. I'm not sure if anyone even reads this anymore, but hey ho, here we go. I know a lot of people who disapprove of speaking about mental illness openly but quite frankly, FUCK THAT SHIT. If more people ( Read more... )

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sarahlascelles January 11 2015, 13:13:08 UTC

As others are said, you are still the same person, and that person is someone that I value immensely. As I have said before, I think you are far too hard on yourself. You are lovely and clever and creative and kind, and all sorts of other wonderful things. Having a new label doesn't change any of that, and hopefully will help you understand you better.

You are also courageous - approaching Rebecca and asking her took courage, approaching your own doctor and going through the diagnostic process took courage, and writing this post took courage.

As for help, what do you need?

bacony January 11 2015, 13:32:38 UTC

If there's anything I can do to help, babysitting or whatever, let me know. As other clever people have already said, you are still you, and your brain is the same as ever, except now you understand it better. Also I still love you, whatever your head is up to :)

ext_2756916 January 11 2015, 13:45:22 UTC

I would like to say something helpful and clever, but I think, most of it has been said already. I am glad and humbled that you are my friend. You (and Chris and Alex) are some of the people I love most in this world. That is not going to change just because it suddenly turns out, your problems do fit into a certain category or you are actually a martian or whatever... you're Abi and I love you exactly the way you are. xxx

ext_2958760 January 11 2015, 16:28:58 UTC

After having read your whole post and every loving and emotionally intelligent comment after, there is little left for me to add.

We cherish you and Chris - you are honourary aunt and uncle to Rosy and we call Alex her honourary cousin. You inhabit that precious plane between family and friends. Abi, you are family that we have chosen.

I totally understand where you are coming from with the inability to filter out unnecessary stimulus. As you know I've been diagnosed with Functional Neurological Disorder and one of the many MS-like symptoms is a breakdown of proper nervous system operation, including executive function. So as much as I love a fancy cappucino, I'd never ask you to meet for a chat in a coffee shop. It is exhausting! I'm lucky that I have good days to balance out the relapses.

With this tiny overlap of experience comes empathy. All that's left for me to say to you is to suggest that you take this opportunity to work on loving yourself. As you are. Because you are a superhero! You have no excuse not to love the ( ... )