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[bestmoirail]

[Nepeta really wishes there was a better filtering system. She's been wanting to ask this for a while but...well, might as well just have at it.]

:33 < id like to ask everyone a question
:33 < how much should you furgive someone?
:33 < if theyve done something really pawful
:33 < what is the line betw33n being difficult
:33 < and being sensible

Comments

[oxidantshappen]

Depends on what they've done. Certain things are, after all inexcusable.

There's nothing wrong about being difficult; you could be sensible for all they know.

[bestmoirail]

:33 < what would you consider inexcusable?

[oxidantshappen]

An act of aggression, I would say. If you're referring to a particular incident, I could probably consider otherwise.

I generally don't forgive, however.

[bestmoirail]

[This is a bit difficult, while she finds herself agreeing with Erik, she has been forced to finally accept that her race is inherently aggressive so it takes a while before she responds.]

:33 < if its something they might not have b33n able to help b33n able to help
:33 < do you still stand by that?

[fierybluebird]

I don't forgive betrayal, but everything should be taken case by case.

[bestmoirail]

:33 < that is kind of in part what happened...
:33 < though i dont really know if it was betrayal
:33 < or if it was just my naivety getting me in trouble

[She kind of realizes at this point, that there might be some cultural conflict going on here, which is just opening up another can of worms, and leads her to yet another question.]

:33 < back home this purrson was purrty much entitled to do what he did
:33 < encouraged even i think
:33 < do you think that
:33 < or a purrsons background can be a justification fur things they do
:33 < in the purresent?

ooc: sorry this is late; CCNY

[fierybluebird]

I think it's never too late to start learning. Do you need help standing up for yourself?

no worries~

[bestmoirail]

:33 <
:33 < i think maybe i do

[elegant_pirate]

It depends on the action that merited the feeling, I think. I mean, the situation. Some things that you might find unforgivable one time might be forgiven under different circumstances.

[bestmoirail]

:33 < is that an okay thing to do?
:33 < it s33ms kind of
:33 < wrong i guess
:33 < to change how you judge certain things
:33 < just beclaws of how you f33l about it

[elegant_pirate]

I would liken it to someone who steals for his own gain, versus someone who steals to feed his family. It's still wrong, but I think you would be more lenient with one than with the other.

I think for you to be asking your situation must be something much worse than that example, though.

[bestmoirail]

:33 < i never that of it like that
:33 < i guess in that case id definitely pardon the purrson
:33 < trying to k33p people they care about alive
:33 < but yea
:33 < im talking about a very diffurent case
:33 < it does give me something to think about though

[totallynotaspaz]

Well, if the person is really sorry about what they did or they were just trying to help or do something good, I think that's a perfectly good reason to completely forgive someone!

-Danny

[I HOPE YOU LIKE NAIVETE!]

[bestmoirail]

[Oh Danny never change]

:33 < well i know fur certain
:33 < that they at least werent trying to do anything good
:33 < but is that all someone n33ds to be furgiven?
:33 < to be sincere in how sorry they are?

[totallynotaspaz]

I don't see why not...if they're really sorry about what they did, then that means they know why it's bad, right? And if they know why it's bad, that means they're not going to do it again and everything will be good! Right?

[bestmoirail]

:33 < i use to think he same
:33 < but i dunno
:33 < i guess i worry fur several reasons
:33 < one im not really sure how you can ever be
:33 < completely certain they are sincere
:33 < even if they are it doesnt mean they might not do it again
:33 < if its something hey cant really help
:33 < and then
:33 < i guess i just f33l there are some things
:33 < that an im sorry just cant quite cover