It's not stupidity. You're not a stupid person, you're simply extremely absent-minded when it comes to the "real world" stuff. I think that has a great deal to do with the fact that everyday responsibilities and social obligations have just never been something you cared about. and while that certainly causes a degree of strife in your life and therefore you want to work on that, make sure that it's important enough to you to change aspects of who you are. Just because you're not the same as most people doesn't make the ways in which you are different bad.
Bri is awesome and I think she's the type of person who would communicate with you if she really felt she needed to leave. She's super-intelligent and quite caring so I'm going to assume she's with you because it's still where she wants to be.
We need to hang out again sometime. Those times when we've just spent a day doing whatever without planning in advance are really awesome. It's why I like being your friend. So let's catch up!
Yes, this. Though I'm not sure I'd have described it as absent-mindedness. It's slightly different from that. Stubborn individuality, maybe.
You get better at caring for other people by practice. And everyone does it differently. I spent years feeling like Awesome Husband was the one doing all the caretaking in our relationship, and feeling really guilty about it -- but the things I appreciated that he did to show me he cared were just different from the things I did to show him I cared. Once we both figured that out, I could stop spending energy on feeling guilty, and start spending energy figuring out what he did that worked, and trying to do similar things back. It's still a slow process for me; we have very different ways of appreciating other people and being appreciated, and his are more traditionally valued.
You'll figure it out. I have confidence in your ability to do whatever you set your mind to doing. And I look forward to seeing where you go from here.
Hey, I read this when you posted it, and it was really comforting and inspiring hope.
And yes, you were completely right, but that is it, we've talked about it so much, the future and what will happen. I don't know what will happen, but I am sure things will go for the best, and that I will never loose hope in good.
We do need to hang out, I always missed the tea, playing Katamari Damacy, or watching whatever movie happens to come on. Sometime soon, I will have a car working certainly, and then maybe you can show me around Merced, Turlock, or wherever you are then. I'd say something about my vw, but that is a lot of work that I don't feel much like dealing with right now.
I hope we stay in touch, we are both too busy for our own goods, but I always value your words and friendship.
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Bri is awesome and I think she's the type of person who would communicate with you if she really felt she needed to leave. She's super-intelligent and quite caring so I'm going to assume she's with you because it's still where she wants to be.
We need to hang out again sometime. Those times when we've just spent a day doing whatever without planning in advance are really awesome. It's why I like being your friend. So let's catch up!
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You get better at caring for other people by practice. And everyone does it differently. I spent years feeling like Awesome Husband was the one doing all the caretaking in our relationship, and feeling really guilty about it -- but the things I appreciated that he did to show me he cared were just different from the things I did to show him I cared. Once we both figured that out, I could stop spending energy on feeling guilty, and start spending energy figuring out what he did that worked, and trying to do similar things back. It's still a slow process for me; we have very different ways of appreciating other people and being appreciated, and his are more traditionally valued.
You'll figure it out. I have confidence in your ability to do whatever you set your mind to doing. And I look forward to seeing where you go from here.
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And yes, you were completely right, but that is it, we've talked about it so much, the future and what will happen. I don't know what will happen, but I am sure things will go for the best, and that I will never loose hope in good.
We do need to hang out, I always missed the tea, playing Katamari Damacy, or watching whatever movie happens to come on. Sometime soon, I will have a car working certainly, and then maybe you can show me around Merced, Turlock, or wherever you are then. I'd say something about my vw, but that is a lot of work that I don't feel much like dealing with right now.
I hope we stay in touch, we are both too busy for our own goods, but I always value your words and friendship.
~D
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On another subject, what's your availability in January and early February? I'm looking to set dates for playtesting my games for Dundracon.
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