What Latter-day Saint Women Do Best: Stand Strong and ImmovableJulie B. Beck, Relief Society General President
President Beck gave an outstanding talk at the Relief Society meeting that accompanied the October 2007 conference, highlighting ways in which the women of the Church of Jesus Christ can and should distinguish themselves from the rest of the world.
“Within the plan of the Lord there are specific things Latter-day Saint women must do because they are daughters of God, chosen to come to the earth at a time which has been called ‘a very difficult season in the history of the world.’
“In order to do our part as women under the Lord’s plan, we must stand strong and immovable in faith, strong and immovable in family, and strong and immovable in relief. We must excel in these three important areas which set us apart as the Lord’s disciples. Through Relief Society we practice being disciples of Christ. We learn what He would have us learn, we do what He would have us do, and we become what He would have us become.”
She then listed some ways in which women of the Church can “excel in living and sharing their testimonies of the Lord Jesus Christ and His restored gospel.” Those included making and keeping gospel covenants, worshiping in the temple and being worthy to do so, studying the doctrines taught by prophets, recognizing and following the Holy Ghost, sharing the gospel, personal and family prayers, family home evenings, and following principles of self-reliance.
“These are simple, indispensable practices that almost seem mundane when we talk about them. However, they are marks of discipleship which have always been foundational for Relief Society sisters. No one can do these things for us-these are personal practices and habits that set us apart as strong and immovable for that which is correct.”
She’s right, and they don’t just apply to the women of the Church. As I’ve pondered the value of daily scripture study, one idea that has occurred to me is that it becomes a practice that can define us as a Christian in our everyday life. When others try to define Latter-day Saint practices from an outside perspective, they often focus on what we’re not doing: no alcohol, tobacco, coffee, or tea; no sex outside of marriage; not worshiping the way they think we should be worshiping; etc. Since I’m in a place in my life where those things aren’t much of a temptation, and I thus don’t have to put much effort into resisting such temptations, what does define me as a Christian? To me the answer comes from what I’m regularly choosing to do, rather than from what I’m already in the habit of not doing. Reading the scriptures daily thus becomes one of those defining things, particularly the Book of Mormon.
But I digress. President Beck also spoke to the ways in which the women of the Church increasingly stand out from the women (or, in 2020s parlance, birthing persons) of the world:
“Knowing and defending the divine roles of women is so important in a world where women are bombarded with false messages about their identity. Popular media figures on the radio and television set themselves up as authorities and spokespersons for women. While these media messages may contain elements of truth, most preach a gospel of individual fulfillment and self-worship, often misleading women regarding their true identity and worth. These voices offer a counterfeit happiness, and as a result, many women are miserable, lonely, and confused.
“The only place Latter-day Saint women will learn the whole and complete truth about their indispensable role in the plan of happiness is in this Church and its doctrine. We know that in the great premortal conflict we sided with our Savior, Jesus Christ, to preserve our potential to belong to eternal families. We know we are daughters of God, and we know what we are to do. Women find true happiness when they understand and delight in their unique role within the plan of salvation. The things women can and should do very best are championed and taught without apology here. We believe in the formation of eternal families. That means we believe in getting married. We know that the commandment to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. That means we believe in having children. We have faith that with the Lord’s help we can be successful in rearing and teaching children. These are vital responsibilities in the plan of happiness, and when women embrace those roles with all their hearts, they are happy! Knowing and defending the truth about families is the privilege of every sister in this Church.
“Because families are eternal, we cannot afford to be casual or complacent about those relationships.”
So based! As political correctness and progressive ideology continues to exhibit confusion about what it even means to be a woman, opportunities for the Latter-day Saints to show what it really means to be a woman will only increase in proportion.
As President Beck had mentioned the importance of Latter-day Saint women excelling in relief, she drew from a statement from Elder John A. Widstoe, who described that effort as “relief of poverty, relief of illness, relief of doubt, relief of ignorance-relief of all that hinders the joy and progress of woman.”
President Beck also stated, “The friendship and sociality that make life so much sweeter will be a natural by-product of our efforts. Focusing on relief will always build sociality, whereas focusing on sociality may not always bring relief.”
It brings to mind some critics of the Church-in this case, those who have apostatized from the faith or are in the process of doing so-who like the social features of the Church, but quibble at the doctrines that differentiate us from legacy Christian movements, or even define us as Christians at all. Left to their devices they would have a church where the people act like we do, but not believe in what we believe. Yet, our actions and culture are a byproduct of our belief, and I submit that if we abandon the doctrines and principles we believe in, the fruits of those beliefs will disappear in short order and would not come back even if we deliberately tried to keep them.
Feed My SheepSilvia H. Allred, First Counselor in the Relief Society General Presidency
Sister Allred spoke about some of her experiences living in multiple countries, mostly in Central and South America, and the value that visiting teaching provides. We can replace “visiting teaching” with “ministering,” and the principles would be the same.
“We have the gospel perspective in our lives. We have divine promptings encouraging us to do good. Let us commit to effective visiting teaching. We can provide temporal and spiritual nourishment. We can and should offer understanding and be able to teach doctrine. We can relieve spiritual hunger and feed the sheep. Feeding the sheep might mean strengthening and nourishing the new members, the less active, or even the fully active members.
“Our service should be selfless, quiet, and be done willingly, with our hearts full of the love of God and His children. There must be genuine concern to shepherd the flock, to invite them unto Christ.”
I Will Strengthen Thee; I Will Help TheeBarbara Thompson, Second Counselor in the Relief Society General Presidency
Like Sheri Dew before her, Sister Thompson was one of those few choice Relief Society leaders who had not been married. She mentioned that at the start of her talk, and then, noting that she had been asked to talk about families, said, “I think Sister Beck thought that I was qualified to talk about families because I have never made a mistake with any of my own children. Many women can’t claim that.”
Much of what she knew about families came from her experiences as a social worker-a profession where people tend to see the worst examples of families more often than the best. With that background in mind, she declared,
“Satan is working overtime to attack the family. He tells us that marriage is not important, that children do not need a father and a mother, and that strong families are not important. He tells us that moral values are old-fashioned and silly. When challenges come, Satan tells us to abandon our beliefs and go with the ways of the world. He entices us with fame and fortune and tells us where to find the easy life. He attacks our faith in God and tries to discourage even the strongest and most loving families. Satan is delighted when we give in-even just a little.”
We’ve heard this before, and we’ll keep hearing it for as long as people continue following the ways of the world. “The members of a stable family know who they are, where they are going, and what they want to achieve. The members of a dysfunctional family do not know who they are; they have no plan, no anchor, and no core set of values or standards to set their course.”
And the way to best optimize the chances of a stable family come from following the principles of the gospel of Christ. It can compensate for factors that would otherwise perpetuate dysfunctional families across generations, or even short-circuit those factors. As Sister Thompson put it, “The greatest help we will have in strengthening families is to know and follow the doctrines of Christ and rely on Him to help us. So often as I have worked with families with problems, I have found myself wishing that these families knew of the Savior and were teaching their children the doctrines of Jesus Christ.”
Three Goals to Guide YouThomas S. Monson, First Counselor in the First Presidency
The concluding speaker was President Monson, who began with some humorous observations. “As I speak to you, I realize that as a man I am in the minority and must be cautious in my comments. I’m reminded of the man who walked into a bookstore and asked the clerk-a woman-for help: ‘Have you got a book titled Man, the Master of Women?’ The clerk looked him straight in the eye and said sarcastically, ‘Try the fiction section!’”
More seriously, he offered three goals for his audience to work on as the followed the path of discipleship: study diligently, pray earnestly, and serve willingly.
Under diligent study, he said,
“The messages portrayed on television, in movies, and in other media are very often in direct opposition to that which we want our children to embrace and hold dear. It is our responsibility not only to teach them to be sound in spirit and doctrine but also to help them stay that way, regardless of the outside forces they may encounter. This will require much time and effort on our part-and in order to help others, we ourselves need the spiritual and moral courage to withstand the evil we see on every side.”
He also added,
“Beyond our study of spiritual matters, secular learning is also essential. Often the future is unknown; therefore, it behooves us to prepare for uncertainties. Statistics reveal that at some time, because of the illness or death of a husband or because of economic necessity, you may find yourself in the role of financial provider. Some of you already occupy that role. I urge you to pursue your education-if you are not already doing so or have not done so-that you might be prepared to provide if circumstances necessitate such.”
Regarding prayer, he counseled, “My dear sisters, do not pray for tasks equal to your abilities, but pray for abilities equal to your tasks. Then the performance of your tasks will be no miracle, but you will be the miracle.”
And, on the subject of serving willingly he said, “Often small acts of service are all that is required to lift and bless another: a question concerning a person’s family, quick words of encouragement, a sincere compliment, a small note of thanks, a brief telephone call. If we are observant and aware, and if we act on the promptings which come to us, we can accomplish much good. Sometimes, of course, more is needed.”
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Thus we conclude the conferences of President Hinckley’s administration. At this point, at the end of 2024, we now have seven apostles alive who were serving in that capacity during the time period under consideration: Russell M. Nelson, Dallin H. Oaks, Jeffrey R. Holland, Henry B. Eyring, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, David A. Bednar, and Quentin L. Cook. Those last four were called to the apostleship under President Hinckley’s leadership, and I, for one, have come to appreciate the inspiration behind each of those callings.
At the time of President Hinckley’s passing
I wrote, “I’ve noticed that many Church members have a special place in their hearts for the prophets of their formative years. My dad’s voice takes on a different tone when he brings up his memories of David O. McKay; Spencer W. Kimball is spoken of with equal fondness by those who grew up in the 1970s and early 80s. President Hinckley is that prophet for me. I served as a missionary, got married, attended college, and became a father, all under his leadership.”
While he was still a newer member of the Twelve, President Hinckley wrote a book about the Church’s history called Truth Restored, in which the final chapter was titled “The Sunshine of Good Will.” The period covered President McKay’s time, when the Church began growing rapidly around the world under the administration of arguably our most charismatic prophet. In hindsight I think most of the time between the McKay and Hinckley years (with President Kimball squarely in the middle of them) can be characterized as a time of good will for the Church. My own impression is that such feelings of good will toward the Church from the rest of the world had largely faded after President Hinckley’s death, replaced by headwinds driven by political correctness and secularism. Such forces were already in place, of course, but became increasingly emboldened during President Monson’s time as prophet. The odyssey continues!
“Ending credits” of the October 2007 conference (names of those who didn’t speak in italics):
First Presidency
Gordon B. Hinckley (3 talks)
Thomas S. Monson (3 talks)
Henry B. Eyring (2 talks)
Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
Boyd K. Packer
L. Tom Perry
Russell M. Nelson
Dallin H. Oaks
M. Russell Ballard
Joseph B. Wirthlin
Richard G. Scott
Robert D. Hales
Jeffrey R. Holland
Dieter F. Uchtdorf
David A. Bednar
Quentin L. Cook
Presidency of the Seventy
Earl C. Tingey
D. Todd Christofferson
Neil L. Andersen
Ronald A. Rasband
Claudio R. M. Costa
Steven E. Snow
Walter F. González
First Quorum of the Seventy
Charles Didier
Robert C. Oaks
James M. Paramore
Yoshihiko Kikuchi
Marlin K. Jensen
Carlos H. Amado
Spencer J. Condie
Glenn L. Pace
Kenneth Johnson
Lynn A. Mickelsen
Dennis B. Neuenschwander
Cecil O. Samuelson Jr.
John B. Dickson
Jay E. Jensen
W. Craig Zwick
Dallas N. Archibald
Bruce C. Hafen
Gary J. Coleman
John M. Madsen
Carl B. Pratt
Sheldon F. Child
Francisco J. Viñas
Lance B. Wickman
Lynn G. Robbins
Donald L. Hallstrom
Richard J. Maynes
L. Whitney Clayton
Christoffel Golden Jr.
Bruce D. Porter
Benjamin De Hoyos
David F. Evans
C. Scott Grow
Richard G. Hinckley
Paul V. Johnson
Paul E. Koelliker
Paul B. Pieper
Ulisses Soares
Keith K. Hilbig
David S. Baxter
Shayne M. Bowen
Daniel L. Johnson
Marcus B. Nash
Anthony D. Perkins
Enrique R. Falabella
Erich W. Kopischke
Michael J. Teh
Octaviano Tenorio
Claudio D. Zivic
Second Quorum of the Seventy
Lowell D. Wood
Robert S. Wood
Douglas L. Callister
Robert R. Steuer
Gerald N. Lund
William R. Walker
Craig C. Christensen
James M. Dunn
Daryl H. Garn
Spencer V. Jones
Mervyn B. Arnold
Shirley D. Christensen
Clate W. Mask Jr.
William W. Parmley
W. Douglas Shumway
Won Yong Ko
Wolfgang H. Paul
Lowell M. Snow
Paul K. Sybrowsky
Craig A. Cardon
Don R. Clarke
Keith R. Edwards
Stanley G. Ellis
Larry W. Gibbons
Presiding Bishopric
H. David Burton
Richard C. Edgley
Keith B. McMullin
Sunday School
A. Roger Merrill
Daniel K. Judd
William D. Oswald
Young Men
Charles W. Dahlquist
Dean R. Burgess
Michael A. Neider
Relief Society
Julie B. Beck (2 talks)
Silvia H. Allred
Barbara Thompson
Young Women
Susan W. Tanner
Elaine S. Dalton
Mary N. Cook
Primary
Cheryl C. Lant
Margaret S. Lifferth
Vicki F. Matsumori