Comments | wizital: Eleventh Spell

wizital

Eleventh Spell

Sep 04, 2009 11:46

I'm curious, if you have spare time to talk.

What is the difference between love of a friend, and love of a 'boyfriend' and a 'girlfriend'?

From what I remember in my world, we have nothing of the latter. The only difference I know is that I love some of my friends more than others.

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letunityblossom September 4 2009, 16:53:09 UTC

Well, they're not exclusive--I think it's best if you love someone as a friend as well as a boyfriend or girlfriend. But with the latter... It's like-- [Hm, this is hard to explain when he can't remember any examples]

It's like someone you'd want to spend the rest of your life living with, or someone you'd want to have a family with.

wizital September 4 2009, 16:55:30 UTC

But don't you want to spend the rest of your lives with your friends?

letunityblossom September 4 2009, 16:58:03 UTC

You do, but in a different way. It's... Really hard to explain. You wouldn't get married to someone you weren't in love with.

wizital September 4 2009, 17:03:21 UTC

Married?

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rolands_heir September 4 2009, 18:40:53 UTC

Would I could answer that question; unfortunately, I'm afraid that romantic love has as of yet eluded me.

I would suggest talking to my friend, Lady Louise, or her husband, Lord Pent. Either of them should be able to help you.

wizital September 4 2009, 18:44:12 UTC

I will, thank you for telling me.

But I'm curious - what is a 'husband'?

thelostseraph September 4 2009, 18:47:12 UTC

Both are meaningless. Neither are necessary. Procreation, on the other hand, is an encouraged activity for the continuation of the species.

wizital September 4 2009, 18:50:00 UTC

Well now, I hardly asked if they were necessary.

After all, I had thought you and I had an ounce of friendship between us.

thelostseraph September 4 2009, 18:58:51 UTC

Hmph. That is hardly a form of 'love'. It is merely more suitable to behave in a manner parallel to accepted social norms when I am off-duty. In any case, the societies of many sentient beings demand the stiuplation of 'romantic love' before the activity of copulation is allowed. I do not quite understand myself.

wizital September 4 2009, 19:02:34 UTC

So you see the entire manner of love as a duty.

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clutzy_chosen September 4 2009, 21:01:26 UTC

Well... I think when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you want to do different things with them that you wouldn't do with your friends.

Like have kids together! Or cuddle in bed. Or kiss them? [she's grasping here]

wizital September 4 2009, 21:02:45 UTC

I was told that love helps to make a family... though I do not know what this 'kiss' is.

clutzy_chosen September 4 2009, 21:06:08 UTC

You don't know what a kiss is?

It's when you press your lips together with someone else and something... happens! [thinks] Um, I think. I've never kissed anyone before.

wizital September 4 2009, 21:11:23 UTC

... Maybe my species doesn't have love after all... I don't think I can 'kiss'.

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a_severed_fate September 4 2009, 23:21:58 UTC

Are you still having trouble with this, Wizarmon?

I wouldn't be able to explain it very well... but perhaps if you compared your feelings for a friend to something that you like... maybe a flower, or a dessert, or a very well-crafted weapon, and then your feelings for a boyfriend or a girlfriend to the prime example of such a thing... a rare species of flower that you want to see thrive, or the dish you could eat every single day of the week without getting bored, or the finest sword in a king's treasury that was forged by a highly revered blacksmith...

...um....

[Wow, Tear, this sounds really REALLY lame coming from you. And she notices it, too.]...L-like I said, I wouldn't know ( ... )

wizital September 4 2009, 23:28:13 UTC

I'm sorry that I keep having such confusions... I've never had to deal with these sort of emotions and terms before. It's all very new to me.

But... those explanations do help. They were very beautiful to here... and... I think I understand them better now than before, because the last time I asked, I had less memories than I do now. I've remembered someone very important to me, and this has made my life all the more meaningful. This one person means more to me than anyone else I've met here.

... I may be, slowly, begining to understand the difference... but I still have a long way to go.

a_severed_fate September 5 2009, 00:23:30 UTC

It's okay. Everyone gets confused sometimes. I think it would be even more difficult to find someone who never felt that way. If nothing else, being in this situation seems to have allowed a lot of us to learn about and experience things that we never would have been exposed to back where we came from. In that respect, it might not be such a bad thing.

A-ah... They weren't really. I was just thinking of someone I know and trying to explain it in a way that even he'd be able to understand. It's easier to grasp a concept if you can relate it to something you already know.

[Smiles a little, despite herself, wherever she is.]

I see.

But either way you're making progress, and as long as that trend continues, I'm sure you'll be able to reach your goal.

wizital September 5 2009, 00:29:05 UTC

I agree completely. To learn not only about ourselves, but those around is... it's a great experience. I do not think I will regret gaining all of this knowledge of different peoples and cultures... which is why I enjoyed your explanations so much. There's no need to doubt yourself, I can tell you put your heart into it. And I thank you for it.

My goal... Yes, I know I will reach it. I have to. In a place like this, you can only go forward.

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