Ex-husband

[wonderkittypunk]

Ok, because I'm a complete moron, I still have email contact with Greg (the ex-husband for those of you not paying attention! LOL). In email today he brought up his lovely (sarcasm definitely included) girlfriend

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[queens_guard]

That is quite a revelation. No wonder your marriage was such a hellish experience. Well, at least you can be grateful for being out of that relationship, and looking forward to your life with Chris.

But I also think if I were you, now that you have ended your marriage with Greg, I would end the conversations and emails too. They can only serve to bring you renewed disappointment in that part of your life, and partly in yourself as well, and you don't need that even under the best of circumstances. Add to that your chronic depression, you've got a good recipe for more problems.

[wonderkittypunk]

It was pretty bad...and this is just the tip of the iceberg, the things I felt like typing out. I mean, I'm not perfect and I know that. I know I did things that weren't condusive to a great relationship...but I can't take all (or even most) of the blame.

I know...I need to stop contact with him. Chris is always telling me the same thing. The problem is that I'm the kind of person that doesn't like hurting people. I would (pretty much always) rather sacrifice my own happiness for someone elses's. If I suffer, but someone else is happy, then all to the better.

It's been the way I always am, and I'm trying now to realize that I'm important too (doesn't that sound corny? LOL).

[queens_guard]

The only thing I want to say is that, you have to do what you have to do. I understand that impulse very well. That's my big weakness as well. But when it gets to the point that it's hurting your self-esteem, then you have to do something to counter that. This is the point where I tell you that you need a cheerleader. A friend that can see your good points for what they are and help you realize what they are and exactly how good they are.

I'm sure you know by now that self-esteem is the key to everything - your well-being, your success in life, your relationships, and on and on. So you have to do everything you can to help build that. Of course you need someone you can trust and believe in. Not some sour hold fart. But I do make a very good cheerleader if you are so inclined.