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enlightened monogamy
I don't think monogamy is a problem in and of itself. As one of many available models for relationships, it serves its purpose and there are people who are particularly well suited to it, for a variety of reasons. What becomes a problem is when the culture pressures us, from the time we've very small, to believe that monogamy is the only ( Read more... ) -
the trouble with monogamy
(the following was written for another forum, but I thought I'd share it here as well)What bugs me most about monogamy is the way that it causes people to jealously guard their relationships from all outside threats, real or perceived, to the extent that it can make it hard for the couple to make new friends, except with other couples. Now ( Read more... ) -
biology is not identity
The research described in "Straight, Gay or Lying? Bisexuality Revisited" seems to be based on the faulty assumption that genital arousal has anything to do with sexual orientation or relationship preference. I'm sure a gay man might experience some genital arousal if you showed him a video of two straight people having sex, if it was particularly ( Read more... ) -
belief-o-matic
I'm not inclined to post a bunch of personality quiz results here -- not that there's anything wrong with them, but I just don't know how useful that information is to people who might wander by. But this "Belief-o-Matic" religious identity quiz is pretty interesting. Who knew I would agree 100% with liberal Quakers? I identify more strongly ( Read more... ) -
more propaganda about Iraq?
I keep hearing the argument that we can't set a target date for pulling out of Iraq because that will just play into the hands of the insurgents, meaning that they'll just wait until we leave and then wreak havoc. At first I thought there was something to this argument, but then it occurred to me: why would they wait until we leave to cause more ( Read more... ) -
over educated
I keep thinking about going back to grad school (again!), but what in? Education, gender studies, creative non fiction, rhetoric.... or what? I'm not exactly sure where I want to direct my energies, nor am I sure I actually have the energy to spend, with a full time job and time consuming hobby. But it's a dream I let swirl around in my mind from ( Read more... ) -
why poly is important to me
I recently posted this on another poly forum, in response to the question "why is polyamory important to you," and thought it might be interesting to share here. The conversation I was responding to included many observations about the process of "coming out poly," which is what prompted me to make the comparison to coming out as a lesbian ( Read more... ) -
sadness and frustration
I feel sick after reading about the bombings in London. Far from being "on the run" as the Bush Administration would like us to think, the terrorists are obviously alive and well and able to pull off a fairly well coordinated attack. And then Bush has the nerve to say "We will not yield to these people, will not yield to the terrorists. We will ( Read more... ) -
brief thoughts on gay marriage debate
The original entry for this spot was kind of boring, so I've replaced it with the "random musing" on gay marriage from my web site, for your reading pleasure. The opinions expressed here are subject to revision.While marriage rights are not something I personally have ever felt the need to have access to I do believe that they should be granted to ( Read more... ) -
new books!
I have a bad habit of buying new books and then never reading them. I get really into something, find a bunch of interesting books, hunt down the lowest prices (usually used) and then maybe read one or two before I move on to the next thing I'm interested in ( Read more... )