Anti-Twilight Musings Part Two- Edward's Creepyness or How I became a Team Jacob Member
When I first read the Twilight Saga, I was a rabid *insert monster joke here, here, and here* Team Edward member. I would defend Edward's behavior and actions to the DEATH. and beyond, if the situation required it.
But, upon multiple re-readings, I became disillusioned with Edward's actions.
Allow me to post this excerpt of a Dear Abby column, which I originally read in an antiR/Hr essay on mugglenet.
15 Reasons to Leave Your Lover: Warning Signs of an Abusive Personality
Something's just not right in your relationship, and you can't put your finger on it. So here's some help. If your mate is displaying a combination of these behaviors, then you may have a potential batterer on your hands.
1. A push for quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this by anyone." An abuser pressures the woman for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
2. Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because "you might meet someone"; checks the mileage on your car.
3. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything.
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5. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble." The abuser may deprive you of a phone or car or try to prevent you from holding a job.
I'll discuss each of these points. Well, I left some out obviously.
1.A push for quick involvement.
Hell yeah, there was a push for quick involvement in Twilight. Within the first few weeks, Edward's like, "You are my life now." When reading it, sure it elicits wistful sighs, but how many of you can honestly say that if this was said to you, you wouldn't be at least a teensy-weensy tiny bit creeped out? Just a little? I know I would!
2. Jealousy.
Yes, everybody gets jealous, but don't you think Edward saying he could kill Jacob is just a little over the top? Maybe it's just me, but Edward's jealousy crosses the line between *oh, it's cute* to *give me a little breathing room*. I'm not saying Edward should sit by and not be jealous if Bella kisses Jacob, but that he shouldn't be DISABLING her TRUCK.
3. Controlling.
Did I mention he DISABLED her TRUCK?
5. Isolation
Edward gets his sister (I can't believe Alice agreed to this) to kidnap Bella so she won't be tempted to do anything like, oh, I don't know, VISIT HER BEST FRIEND WHO HELPED PUT HER BACK TOGETHER AFTER EDWARD LEFT. Cause, you know, werewolves are so dangerous. I concede that point but I must counter- Jacob loves Bella. He would rather die than harm her. And just like Edward, he would do anything to avoid his tribe/coven harming her. And quite frankly, Edward doesn't have room to talk. Remember that little scene in New Moon when Bella gets a paper cut and suddenly it's a feeding frenzy at the Cullen Manor? How Bella was harmed by his friend?
Please, Stephenie, please enlighten me. How is say, Paul harming Bella worse than Jasper harming Bella?
And my own point, the one that sums up my views of Twilight in general.
At least Jacob doesn't watch Bella while she sleeps.
This defeats anypoint edward supporters make.
Team Edwarder: Jacob's too young for Bella!
Wotcher: At least he doesn't watch her while she sleeps, before they even got together!
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Team Edwarder: Jacob tricked Bella into kissing him! That's creepy!
Wotcher: At least he doesn't watch Bella while she's sleeping.
I don't care WHY he watched her. Tell me, if you found out the hot guy at your new school was watching you while you sleep, how would you react? I would change the locks and sleep with one eye open, but, you know, maybe that's just me.
And if my vampire boyfriend disabled my truck so I wouldn't be able to visit my best friend who saved me from self-destruction after said boyfriend ditched me, I would be all, "Oh, hell no" and dump him.
I don't care if he sparkles how much he loves me. You watch me sleep and take apart my car, your ass is grass. That is just freaking creepy, not ROMANTIC. Romantic is taking you out for a nice dinner or writing you a poem or holding your hand as you walk together. Not watching people while they sleep and controlling who they talk too, and did I mention he DISABLED her TRUCK?
But, upon multiple re-readings, I became disillusioned with Edward's actions.
Allow me to post this excerpt of a Dear Abby column, which I originally read in an antiR/Hr essay on mugglenet.
15 Reasons to Leave Your Lover: Warning Signs of an Abusive Personality
Something's just not right in your relationship, and you can't put your finger on it. So here's some help. If your mate is displaying a combination of these behaviors, then you may have a potential batterer on your hands.
1. A push for quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this by anyone." An abuser pressures the woman for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
2. Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because "you might meet someone"; checks the mileage on your car.
3. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to go anywhere or do anything.
...
5. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble." The abuser may deprive you of a phone or car or try to prevent you from holding a job.
I'll discuss each of these points. Well, I left some out obviously.
1.A push for quick involvement.
Hell yeah, there was a push for quick involvement in Twilight. Within the first few weeks, Edward's like, "You are my life now." When reading it, sure it elicits wistful sighs, but how many of you can honestly say that if this was said to you, you wouldn't be at least a teensy-weensy tiny bit creeped out? Just a little? I know I would!
2. Jealousy.
Yes, everybody gets jealous, but don't you think Edward saying he could kill Jacob is just a little over the top? Maybe it's just me, but Edward's jealousy crosses the line between *oh, it's cute* to *give me a little breathing room*. I'm not saying Edward should sit by and not be jealous if Bella kisses Jacob, but that he shouldn't be DISABLING her TRUCK.
3. Controlling.
Did I mention he DISABLED her TRUCK?
5. Isolation
Edward gets his sister (I can't believe Alice agreed to this) to kidnap Bella so she won't be tempted to do anything like, oh, I don't know, VISIT HER BEST FRIEND WHO HELPED PUT HER BACK TOGETHER AFTER EDWARD LEFT. Cause, you know, werewolves are so dangerous. I concede that point but I must counter- Jacob loves Bella. He would rather die than harm her. And just like Edward, he would do anything to avoid his tribe/coven harming her. And quite frankly, Edward doesn't have room to talk. Remember that little scene in New Moon when Bella gets a paper cut and suddenly it's a feeding frenzy at the Cullen Manor? How Bella was harmed by his friend?
Please, Stephenie, please enlighten me. How is say, Paul harming Bella worse than Jasper harming Bella?
And my own point, the one that sums up my views of Twilight in general.
At least Jacob doesn't watch Bella while she sleeps.
This defeats anypoint edward supporters make.
Team Edwarder: Jacob's too young for Bella!
Wotcher: At least he doesn't watch her while she sleeps, before they even got together!
__ _ __
Team Edwarder: Jacob tricked Bella into kissing him! That's creepy!
Wotcher: At least he doesn't watch Bella while she's sleeping.
I don't care WHY he watched her. Tell me, if you found out the hot guy at your new school was watching you while you sleep, how would you react? I would change the locks and sleep with one eye open, but, you know, maybe that's just me.
And if my vampire boyfriend disabled my truck so I wouldn't be able to visit my best friend who saved me from self-destruction after said boyfriend ditched me, I would be all, "Oh, hell no" and dump him.
I don't care if he sparkles how much he loves me. You watch me sleep and take apart my car, your ass is grass. That is just freaking creepy, not ROMANTIC. Romantic is taking you out for a nice dinner or writing you a poem or holding your hand as you walk together. Not watching people while they sleep and controlling who they talk too, and did I mention he DISABLED her TRUCK?