Comments | wraithblade6: Money is Hell

wraithblade6

Money is Hell

Nov 17, 2006 22:54

I am just so pissed off that I gotta rant. This is the poorest, shittiest time of my life. I've been out of school for an entire year, since my mom died, and I haven't been able to get a job during that whole time because *somebody* had to stay home and watch grandma. Sure, I've got a sister, but she's about as caring and responsible as a dead fish ( Read more... )

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sailorscorpio November 18 2006, 17:32:03 UTC

I know this won't be must consolation (it's really difficult to console someone when money's tight and nothing looks bright), but in the end of May (or whenever it is) you'll have a DVM and a good shot at $45k+/yr. ::hugs:: I know it sucks to wait because I remember all the shitty times that I didn't have any money to pay for necessities and bills. But it'll pass.

wraithblade6 November 23 2006, 03:29:36 UTC

Yeah. You're right. It'll pass. I just have to hang in here. Thanks for the reply! :P

Compenation for watching Grandma? thisisjoel November 19 2006, 15:19:27 UTC

Hmmm... You seem to believe that you're not earning money because you're a caregiver for your grandmother.

April, being a caregiver is a job. Professional "visiting nurses" make in the 20k or 30k range a year. Now, your family shouldn't be required to pay you that much. However, some equity should be in order.

Perhaps your sister should chip in to boost your "allowance."

-- Joel

Re: Compenation for watching Grandma? wraithblade6 November 23 2006, 03:35:00 UTC

Thanks for the idea and caring my friend. My sister would be doing a great help by just paying for her own needs. I think she is able to now that she's working. Granted, i'm jealous that she gets to work outside the house and I don't, but meh... I should be studying anyway.

I just have to hang in here until I get back to school. This time of life is hard for everyone I guess. The space between "childhood" or education and employed self-sufficiency is a painful and frustrating limbo. I've been here too damn long, and I get miffed on occasion. I'm glad to have such benevolent and understanding friends. :)

a little more anonymous November 20 2006, 14:42:49 UTC

Money is always a factor right? Well, I came back to visit this and have seen that it seems I didn't right enough, or at least for some and maybe you. "I'm not married at 28", well that's because you are going in different directions (being still in school is a big factor too). It is too bad it didn't work out with us, but you did have a shot. Things I was looking forward to were sharing the nice crisp cold morning, climbing out of a tent to -20 degrees, there's nothing like it. Or maybe next summer helping you try to take on my cycling record (although I know you don't want to take my bike "The Bull"). I won't be able to finish teaching you how to fight, but first you have to get your "wind" up to last, that takes a while, but still. I think a major part of the failing was the fact that my hopes might have been too high. I expected you to be tougher, but you weren't and when you would complain, I think I came down on you too hard. One thing you have to push for is the fencing. It's my belief that because of the road you have chose ( ... )

Re: a little more wraithblade6 November 23 2006, 03:50:59 UTC

Well, thanks for the comment Dan. As much as I love comments in my LJ, a personal email would be more heartfelt.

money money money money AHHH! anonymous November 20 2006, 17:05:16 UTC

I have to agree there April, money does suck. I am so sorry to hear about your financial struggles, but hopefully things will get better. I didn't like the part you wrote about being 28 and not married. Ummm I'm 30 and not married, so does that make me a freak? A lot of our mutual Binghamton friends are still not married. So don't worry about that. You've got a lot going for you, and you'll inevitably meet a fantastic guy sometime in the future. In the meantime, I hope you are able to enjoy Thanksgiving, and I look forward to seeing you around Christmas if you are able to make it by for the Greek Peak ski trip/get together. - Tina

Re: money money money money AHHH! wraithblade6 November 23 2006, 03:39:58 UTC

Hey, thanks for the hopeful comments, Tina. I feel like professional women have slim pickings, but maybe there are a lot of professional men out there feeling the same way. I'd assume there are still a majority of them than us in the prof world. Heh.
I hope you have a great Thanksgiving tomorrow too, and I will do my best to get away for one night to see you all at Greek Peak. Glad you can be there. :)

bodychex November 21 2006, 17:07:20 UTC

April, I know how important family can be. When your mom died lives there were thrown into chaos, and it forced all of you to make some VERY tough decisions and sacrifices. I know how uncaring this might sound, but it's not fair for you (or your sister) to be (or feel) forced to drop or pause life. You are both young enough that you are still trying to create lives for yourself. You are unhappy that you're 28, unmarried and poor. Anyone would be if they were in your position. In my humble opinion you need to finish up your schooling, make time for a healthy relationship, do what you can to earn a few bucks in your spare time (laughable, I know), and IF and only IF you have additional time make time for family. If your family really loves you they would want you to live a long, happy life. This is a critical time for you and you need to do whatever you can to reduce stress in your life - it really sounds like you are being dumped on right now ( ... )

wraithblade6 November 23 2006, 03:46:46 UTC

Woah Dave! I haven't heard from you in ages. I know you sent me a personal email like years ago though. That was nice, but at the time I don't think I got back to you cuz of buisiness. Currently, I'm feeling much happier and less stressed. I've gotten way busy with the things I enjoy in life, such as fencing and seeing friends. It's too bad i'll have to put this wonderful "living" back on hold to return to school next month, but like you said, I need to focus on that now and get my life going. I need the freedom and independence of a real job. I'm ready to do that. I really think it took a whole year "off" to get away from that "burnt out" feeling I had at school. My family is important to me, and they're really not such a burden. I've gotten stronger in the past year, to the point that I can do a lot at once. I don't think I'm stressed... but I might be. It feels like a good, healthy stress though.

Hope you are well. Are you in Ithaca?

bodychex November 27 2006, 17:16:28 UTC

Actually, I'm living out in Freeville and I'm married ;-) Just this passed July. Working as a network admin for the law school (have been for a couple of years) and trying to stay out of trouble. Other than that not much has changed... ok, I guess that's a lot, huh? I'm glad things are better for you now. Stress sucks, but I guess it's something we all have to live with. I'm just looking forward to retiring with my millions, then I woke up. We should do lunch some time.