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[x7bren]

Back in April of last year my mom had a stroke and a heart-attack due to complications with pneumonia. Since then I have moved back home to take care of her and I've had to do a major lifestyle change in the process

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[hyperlatina]

I'm sorry that you're going through this and don't have anyone to share it with. I can't say that I know what it's like to go through a situation like this, but I can say that from what you've written, you've devoted yourself to your mother more than most people ever would. I don't think it's guilty or selfish of you at all to want to live your life.

My suggestion is to do what's going to make you happiest and the most comfortable. If you can honestly find care for your mother that is going to allow you to feel peace of mind and not make you feel guilt, I say go for it.

I wish you the best in all this, and I pray that your partner becomes more situation about the whole deal. It's hard enough to go through without having the support of your signifcant other.

[terwashere]

*hugs*

I kind of know how you feel. My dad had that whole cancer-thing and he was home all the time. My mom made things really hard on him, and still does, so it was my brother and I trying to make stuff run smooth. When he was in the hospital, she kept yelling at him, sometimes wouldn't even visit him, while my brother and I were just hoping he wouldn't die. We listened to him and a lot of his concerns were 'why is my wife acting so selfish?' when SHE was insisting HE was being selfish.

I know this isn't exactly what your situation is like, but I know what it's like taking care of an unwell loved one, and feeling like life would crack apart if I slipped.

*hugs again*

[shadowgardens]

Oh honey, you have NOTHING to feel bad about! Your feelings are perfectly natural. I wish I could help.

Have you tried joining a support group, they might have ideas to help you. Is there anyone that can take care of her for awhile so you can get out and take a break?

[astentatioux]

It is tough to take care of someone with a stroke, they don't realize that they are sick and the effect they have on others. Been there.

Even though she's a priority, you need to take care of yourself, otherwise you lose yourself as you said.

I do hope things turn out well for you.

[theladybailey]

Catching up on my f-list, sorry I didn't post sooner...

*hugssssss* I can't say I understand what you're going through - because it would be a big fat lie - but I can say I understand the hopelessness of looking at a situation and knowing either you sacrifice a little more or it all falls apart.

Remember, love, you've got to keep your chin up and admit when you need some help. There's bound to be a support group around, that could help you. And try looking into a new agency.

*Hugsssss* Sorry I'm not more help. But know at least one person is thinking of you.