Comments | x_bluerose_x: I'm coming clean.

x_bluerose_x

I'm coming clean.

Jul 23, 2010 16:29

I realize I haven't posted here and in many places for a very long time. I'm taking a nice, deep breath and reposting an email I just sent to HellenicPagan as to why ( Read more... )

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lilairen July 23 2010, 21:12:27 UTC

I am so sorry that that happened to you.

x_bluerose_x July 23 2010, 21:13:38 UTC

Thanks...me too. That it came from someone whom I considered to be my best friend just added to the injury...

ckd July 23 2010, 21:17:11 UTC

I read the whole thing.

x_bluerose_x July 23 2010, 21:18:43 UTC

Muchly appreciated.

I've had this account for years. When I first talked of it, it was under a tight filter with very little specifics.

Now I'm being told that other people are claiming I'm "exaggerating a very innocent situation" and that the person in question is neither confirming nor denying what happened and saying he was "too drunk to remember."

And it occurred to me...I disappeared from here too and didn't tell people why. Now they know.

rssefuirosu July 23 2010, 22:22:36 UTC

I had hoped that wasn't the case, but there we go.

as someone who has also been raped, i understand why it took so long to come out.

Take care; your gods love you no matter what.

-Sef
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cdaae July 23 2010, 23:57:54 UTC

I'm so sorry this happened to you - and I don't think you need to apologize for not having said any of it before.

sophiaserpentia July 24 2010, 00:10:07 UTC

Safe hugs.

IMO you are being too hard on yourself. We live in a society that vilifies survivors of sexual violence, that tends to blame the victim, and which downplays and minimizes the effects of PTSD. It is not your obligation to tell people what happened; it is his obligation not to harm people. Any harm he may have done to anyone else is his responsibility alone, because it is his choice to do it or not to do it.

I could recommend the therapist I saw for a couple of years. I don't specifically know if she is pagan-friendly, but she is GLBT-poly-kinky friendly so I don't think it would be a stretch for her.