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[x_dig_me_x]

so i just had a three hour long AIM fight with my boyfriend because:

he doesnt understand why im not okay with him hanging out with his CRAZY ex girlfriend. who still loves him... three years later.

yeah. am i crazy for that not being alright?

Comments

[sevenpenguins]

no. you have every right to be worried IF she really is still in love with him.
if they were just still really good friends and she had moved on and actually said aloud "hey, i don't love bo." then i'd say not to worry.

i'd be upset too.

[x_dig_me_x]

they arent good friends. and havent been since she cheated on him. hes only seen her to fuck her... only to fuck her. nothing more since they broke up THREE YEARS AGO. so why does he feel the need to do it now? knowing how i feel? and apperantly im not crazy- HE IS ive talked to a LOT of people about it and they all react like this... even his high school friends... who dont like her anyway. theyre like why would he wnat to even talk to her again? especially if he knows itd ruin you guys.

i dont get it.

hes like itll make me look like an asshole and pussywhipped.

it does make you look like an asshole- to me. you have no obligations to her anymore. but you do to me... to make me happy and comfortable and wanting to see your ex girlfriend the only other serious one that youve slept with.... kinda hurts my feelings and it just doesnt settle right.

good, im glad im not crazy

[denouement]

you're not crazy, i would flip out.

[x_dig_me_x]

good. because im still freaking out over it

he told me i could come wit him to hang out with her. i agreed to do so... but it wont be a good thing or end up in a very good manner. its never a good idea to invite your current girlfriend to hang out with you and your ex girlfriend.

i mean read that- that makes me look like a fool and an asshole and a fucking doormat. wow, what the fuck have i gotten myself into? this isnt me at all........ wow.

[denouement]

the way i see it... it doesn't really matter it it's 'okay' or 'valid' for you to feel the way that you do about this situation - the fact is, you feel this way. period. it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong for you to feel this way. what matters is that he understands and respects how you feel. what matters is how you talk about it.

[x_dig_me_x]

he doesnt though... at all. he got mad at me and turned it around on me... and made me feel like an ass for not being like "oh ok its totally cool for you to go see your ex girlfriend and then come visit me. ill make cookies for you guys!"

i tried to approach it in a manner that was mature and well thought out... but it didnt work.

[quendalin]

Yeah I don't think you're acting crazy or anything. I agree with the above statement

[x_dig_me_x]

yeah i know- thats the statement i felt for a long time but after talking to a few opeople and through this LJ post... i got over it cause i knew i wanst wrong in feeling how i was.

their history is a LOT more complex i think than yours and matts... a lot from what i understand of it. i dont really ask many questions and maybe thats part of my problem... he tells me a lot though regardless. i saw john and matt around you... it was scary kinda :)

[xchanging_mex]

Ooooh, crazy Jade?

[x_dig_me_x]

none other.

[crabbysweetie]

You're not crazy. I'd be pissed too.

[x_dig_me_x]

upset is a better word. unless it happens.

then pissed wont begin to describe my feelings .