So my mother decided to lie and say that she never got the email of us spending christmas with my dad when, she actually did get it and erased it right away
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It sucks, I understand that but sometimes you just have to put yourself in the other person's skin. I don't know why your parents split but maybe you mother is still upset about it and just doesn't want you to leave. It's getting to the time when she will start to lose you guys as you move out and all of that.
I hope things work out and that you get to spend Christmas with you dad.
I do understand where she's coming from. I mean since I was 3 I understood that the reason the marriage failed was mainly because of my father. But, after more than 14 years i expected her to be more graceful about it. If she had just said "Understand i'ts hard for me to elt you guys go", I would've been way more comprehensive. But, the way she handle things, and how she said she was actually gonna get us back. I mean like we purposely did this to hurt her or something. It's ridiculous.
some people don't know how to handle things any other way. i'm the same. think about it...her heart has probably been broken for 14 years...after that long it's bound to take a toll on her.
yeah. i mean i understand. But, the thing is it's been taking a toll on her for 16 years know. It's not the first time she does things like this. I grew up hearing how much of a scum my dad was since i was 10, she would tell me this so i would have some sympathy and call him and asked him for money. She's always find a way to use her pain to make everyone feel guilty. Loving my dad is almost prohibitted. I mean once i got chased around the house for even mentionin the idea of seeing him. All i ask is for peace, for my brother's sake more than my own. But, she cant seem to be able to do that. My first and only memory of my parents ever being together was getting locked in a room so i wouldnt hear them argue. I dont want my brother to keep growing up feeling he has to choose. I dont want to keep feeling like im choosing. I want to be able to love both withouth having someone making me feel guilty about it. Because in the end, it was their mistake, not mine.
I grew up with my dad being the bad guy ALL THE TIME, and never my mom, so then I took my mom's side all my life, and finally I am realizing that my dad isn't this terrible person I percieved when I saw it from a 10 year olds eyes. I've always loved him and i'm lucky i've always spent Christmas with him, but it's just like now that I'm living with him I see him as much better, sometimes I'm reminded of the things from the past, but I have definitely realized that I like spending time with him, AND I have realized some things about my mom which aren't so great either.... it's kind of switching around basically. hope things go better!
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I hope things work out and that you get to spend Christmas with you dad.
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I grew up hearing how much of a scum my dad was since i was 10, she would tell me this so i would have some sympathy and call him and asked him for money. She's always find a way to use her pain to make everyone feel guilty. Loving my dad is almost prohibitted. I mean once i got chased around the house for even mentionin the idea of seeing him.
All i ask is for peace, for my brother's sake more than my own. But, she cant seem to be able to do that.
My first and only memory of my parents ever being together was getting locked in a room so i wouldnt hear them argue.
I dont want my brother to keep growing up feeling he has to choose. I dont want to keep feeling like im choosing.
I want to be able to love both withouth having someone making me feel guilty about it. Because in the end, it was their mistake, not mine.
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it's kind of switching around basically. hope things go better!
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i would love to have some coffee with you soon, and just talk.
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