Comments | xneonmoonx: Relating to My Own Gender

xneonmoonx

Relating to My Own Gender

Oct 05, 2011 14:53

Why is it that very often, when I make a new friend who happens to be a member of the opposite sex, he winds up being interested in being more than friends? Is it ever possible to avoid sexual tension in such a case, or am I reaching for the stars here? I have to wonder ( Read more... )

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alive_omi October 6 2011, 21:45:44 UTC

When someone wants to have sex he just wants to have it. Friendship is not connected with sexual interest, really. Being a friend is not "more or less", it's just different. Do you think about friendship when someone is sexually attractive to you? There's no simple answer to the question, I guess ( ... )

xneonmoonx October 12 2011, 17:36:31 UTC

I see the cycle, yes. However, it would still be effing great if more people were more BALANCED in the areas of sex and friendship. I've met men my age who outwardly say that they like being my friend and then, in the next breath, they say that they would be interested in "friends with benefits" if I reciprocated that interest. So perhaps they were namely interested in one thing to begin with (the more physical relationship, that is).

donnalee_kiss October 7 2011, 23:50:50 UTC

Possibly you've been around too many women who you didn't relate to on a personal level at all? They were too into their hair, makeup, accessories....that sort of woman?

xneonmoonx October 12 2011, 17:33:48 UTC

You mean like my mother? Haha... Yep.

I've been exposed to countless women who care far too intensely for all of those superficial things.

donnalee_kiss October 13 2011, 04:51:25 UTC

You got that right....mine was the same way. She was all about having the right look to catch a man and get married and have kids too. Somehow I'm the one in the family having the most fun sans children and marriage!!

xneonmoonx October 17 2011, 19:09:19 UTC

All my mother ever talks about is how she wants to be remarried and live in a house with a white picket fence with a dog. To be frank, it's gross because it appears to be her OBSESSION-- one that she attempts to justify time and time again. But hey, at least I don't live in a culture where people are morally obligated to live with their parents until they die. That would drive me bat-shit crazy.