As the guy, 95% of the time the woman for whom I hold the door allows me to go first in the line. I assume the remaining 5% are bitches. That 5% is also the least likely to say thanks, and the most likely to be yammering rudely on a cell phone, not talking to the clerk outside of her initial order, and most likely to complain their drink was fucked up, usually because they weren't paying attention when the barista repeats it back to them.
I've gone to Starbucks for morning coffee 5 days per week for 3 years, so I guess I've had a lot of time to observe this.
I'd like to point out that I don't like run around them to get to the end of the line, or cut in front of them. I just thought that was the way it works. Likewise, if someone holds the door for me, I let them get in line first.
"Ladies first" applies equally to entering doorways and taking your place in line. If a man is chivalrous enough to hold the door for you, he ought to be chivalrous enough to let you get your coffee first as well. There should be no need to negotiate, and you should feel no obligation towards him other than to say "Thank you" as you enter the door. If the man is being truly chivalrous, he is not expecting "payback" for his actions. If the man thinks that by holding the door for you he is entitled to some portion of your time or attention, his isn't being chivalrous, he's being a pig
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P.S. If you WANT to let him go first, the by all means do so. But I don't think you are obligated just because he held the door for you. You certainly get karma points (same as letting the person with only two items go before you and your full shopping cart in the grocery store), but its not an etiquette requirement, at least not in my (as yet unpublished) book.
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I've gone to Starbucks for morning coffee 5 days per week for 3 years, so I guess I've had a lot of time to observe this.
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