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xquisiteqt

The Difference 'tween the Sexes

Jan 06, 2004 16:27

Over the weekend, I found myself watching Dangerous Liaisons. In one particular scene, an older woman is giving advice to Michelle Pfeiffer's character about happiness in love. She says, "A man enjoys the happiness he feels, a woman the happiness she gives." That is, a woman can be made happy by making her man happy, but a woman's happiness is ( Read more... )

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Big Baby... tofu_boy January 6 2004, 18:41:03 UTC

Yup! :P

Re: Big Baby... xquisiteqt January 7 2004, 12:51:32 UTC

HEY!!! well..at least you're honest about it. *shrug*

cbc00 January 7 2004, 03:18:18 UTC

I have a theory on cat lovers versus dog lovers. But instead of speaking in generalities, I will only talk about our pets: Mimi, the cat, and Lucy, the dog.

Lucy will come to you if you call her. Mimi won't.

Lucy will jump you and lick you enthusiastically when you walk in the door. With Mimi, you're lucky if he even shows up.

Lucy obeys commands. Mimi doesn't.

The one thing Mimi does that Lucy doesn't: he purrs when you pet him.

In other words, Mimi is an excellent sinkhole for affection, whereas Lucy is an excellent provider of affection ( ... )

xquisiteqt January 7 2004, 12:53:33 UTC

GRRREAT analogy. i'm a cat lover (have 3) and shine's a dog lover...i guess that means i'm screwed.

shaqinsactown January 7 2004, 08:31:07 UTC

I think in this less gender specific society those roles are somewhat changing. However, I think men & women are generally wired differently in how they express love. I think your question about women being doomed to invest more emotionally in a relationship is probably not true. I think men go through the same emotions as women in relationships, we're just not as well trained on how to express them, but as with any good and true relationship working on that is just par for the course.

xquisiteqt January 7 2004, 12:55:24 UTC

true, it is the age of the metrosexual, a man in tune with his "feminine" side.

bcchen January 7 2004, 09:46:31 UTC

If this is true, then I must be a woman stuck in a man's body. =P

xquisiteqt January 7 2004, 12:54:36 UTC

well, u sure got the chest of one! hahaha

chunker January 7 2004, 10:28:41 UTC

I think some of that has to do with the women and men allowing each other to act that way. I mean, if the women would stop letting their husbands and boyfriends act like big babies when they are sick, then maybe they would stop. On the other hand, I know wayyyyyy too many women who expect that guys will change just because they are married. Lots of this depends on the type of person he or she is too.

xquisiteqt January 7 2004, 12:57:30 UTC

omg...i have a friend who just got married in this kind of predicament. her man stopped being the boyfriend (chivalrous and keen to make her happy) and became that sexist stereotypical husband. he simply stopped trying at all. *sigh*

chunker January 7 2004, 15:29:07 UTC

One of my friends told me her friends were surprised that her husband still opens the doors for her now that they are married; I'm thinking, "what? Is that sort of courtesy supposed to stop after the wedding?". I guess it goes to show that you really have to know who the person truly is - so you can avoid the "over-hyped", "used carsalesperson" type person who's in disguise!