Revelations

[xreve]

I just spent the last 30 minutes or so reading through an old friend's blog entries on myspace, and they were very depressing. She has been with her boyfriend/fiance/whatever he is for 7 years now, but they are both very unhappy. She is blatantly honest in her entries about doing whatever it takes just so that he won't leave her, even though he

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[ohbananas]

I really like this. You are definitely the only person in your life who can make the decision to move on and grow as an individual, which of course is something your friend will have to find out over time. Sometimes it takes a big event, slap in the face, or tragedy to make people realize these things. Other times I think we just finally obtain the ability to reflect, accept, and grow from our experiences when we otherwise weren't able to view things in perspective. I definitely know this feeling, and unfortunately it's recursive. LOL, but so liberating when you are able to feel like you've figured out shit for the better suddenly. :)

[_dontwalkaway_]

i'm happy for you tasha :) i've never been in any sort of abusive relationship either, but i remember not being able to decide if being unhappy with my ex was better or worse than being alone. now i've been single since july and i can't even fathom the thought of being in another relationship because i don't want to be that dependent girl again. it's frustrating when we see that in others, but all we can do is hope they learn from their experiences.

[xreve]

i had trouble deciding that too. now, in hindsight... it's such an easy decision. being alone is, of course, the better option, lol. we live and learn ;) dependency can suck it!