Mike's Ignorance of my Concern#1

[xtc_dragon]

Recently a lot of things have been going on in my life. Some are more productive than others, but it’s all been keeping me busy. Since it is almost 4am, I am just posting the info below, which came from me typing probably 2 weeks ago. I’ve saved it, but haven’t added to it:

I’ve found that lately my life with Mike has been going downhill. I don’t

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[thisisdavid]

Maybe it's best to think about the time you are together and have fun with it instead of worrying about future time. Worrying too much causes premature grey hair, ejac... oops, not that, lol, and premature death.
Just have FUN! You're too young to worry about things that you can't control.
:)

Hugs from TW!

[xtc_dragon]

I wouldn't worry if I felt that he was the type that always wants to maximize time with me. All he has to do is demonstrate a genuine will to maximize time with me. I have had near death experiences, which has taught me to appreciate life, whatever amount I have.One of my goals is to spend whatever time I have, with Mike. Mike I think has other hgoals of higher priority that do not include me. At least that's what it feels like.

[a_sukr_4_nythn]

I've gotta ask: does this Mike guy seem like a lifelong partner? He disrespects you; you aren't happy. Hell, you're miserable. If you don't see him being a permanent fixture, the dump the dork already. He isn't going to change.

But I've said that before.

And hey, this isn't the 1st time you've mentioned your unhappiness with him. I'm starting to think you are very happy being verbally & emotionally degraded. Which is fine - I don't judge - whatever floats your boat.

But if you're happy being unhappy, just admit it to yourself. You'll (& I'm not trying to be a wiseass when I say this) be happier.

[xtc_dragon]

In some ways, yes he seems like a lifelong partner. In other ways, no. I wish I could just use a magic wand and shape him into more a gentleman that I wish I had. I'm not saying he doesn't have any good qualities. I am just frustrated with certain charactistics he possess. There is still a little string of hope I am hanging onto, believing that he can change. Believing that he will value life ten times more than he does now.

[a_sukr_4_nythn]

Even though you haven't asked, I will bestow one final bit of advice, something I have learned over many years of friendships, many heartbroken women crying on my shoulder & heartbroken men letting it all out over beers.

Everyone has good qualities. Even Adolf Hitler loved him Mom. But there isn't a single man or woman alive who can change another man or woman unless that person WANTS to change. I haven't even met him but I feel confident he either doesn't want to change, or he won't change for you. If he did, he already would have.

Even the people Mahatma Gandhi & Mother Theresa influenced had to want to be influenced.

Like I said - everyone has good qualities. I guarantee there are dozens of men in Barrie alone who have a better ratio of good-to-bad that the insensitive prick (forgive my namecalling) you keep hoping will come around.

[xtc_dragon]

Thanks for the eye opening statement, which I believe holds some truth