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[yakko1]

How does one let go of the past in order to live in the present and hope for the future? I realize that I have pangs of guilt within me that haunt me from my break-up earlier this month. Just when I think that everything is just peachy, something seeps up from the deep recesses of my brain to remind me of the hurt. I will heal... I'm just more

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[chibi_apple]

just follow your heart.

[morose_hands]

Not too late to what?

What did happen to that one "plannn..." you were telling me at Gumps that day? Remember... you needed to get a few in b4 heading back to NYC?

I wish I could tell you something to help, but really, I would be the biggest hypocrite. I still cant fully get back into the "dating game" without feeling like Im doing something wrong to J. Do you think you guys will get back together in the future?

[yakko1]

Hahaha... Sal, you know that's not me. I'm into building real relationships that last... not just hook up. Although my guy friends would love it if I went buck wild.

As for hopping back onto the saddle, I would like to move on, but I can't help but to feel some guilt... say there was someone right now that you thought could make you happy... would you pursue it and forget the guilt? Is there such a thing as 'too soon' to move on?

[morose_hands]

Originally, I thought to say "follow your heart..," but on second thought, the heart doesn't always watch out for yours or the other person best interest.

I think there is such a thing as moving on 'too soon' because all that emotional baggage will be brought up in your new relationship. It can hinder you from moving freely in your new relationship and keeps you jaded with images of your past relationship failures. Sit back and let all those emotions seep... and go through all your emotions... 'dressing the grave' so to speak. Lets go back to the cliche and say, "If its meant to be, itll happen."

Find a place yet hotstuff?

[chibi_apple]

there's following your heart and using your head(logic). your heart tells you what you want to do....yet logically, your head tells you what is the right or wrong thing to do. but when you follow your heart, it always turns out to be the right thing to do in the end because at least you can live your life with no regrets.

[lissie719]

from personal experience, i can never let go of the past. i can only let time try to fade away the memories. i find that some things in the past are so out of my mind that i can hardly believe it was me. other things i think and rethink and overanalyze..which is no use because i cant change anything.

you just have to wait until one day the memories won't hurt anymore..then you know you moved on.

[yakko1]

I see your point. However, overthinking a situation doesn't necessarily make things better for yourself or anyone else. We should always consider the ramifications of our actions, but not everything we do will please everyone. Therefore, sometimes we just have to follow our hearts keeping in mind that the best decision is not necessarily the most pain-free decision. For example... staying in a relationship that you know isn't working so that you don't upset the other person does not help you or the other person.

[azntropicalgrl]

feeling guilty sucks, but don't let it get in the way of what you need to get done.

i hope you're better now. i haven't talked to you in awhile and i know it's b/c we're both busy. but keep your head up high and don't let anything bring you down. =)

[calij]

Give it some time, it'll get better as the day goes by. If it's meant to be, you'll know, if not, don't beat yourself up. Goodluck, and love always finds a way. Cheers.