Comments | yander: rEtreat ridiculousnEss

yander

rEtreat ridiculousnEss

Aug 04, 2010 00:56

I was not going to even comment to the response, but now I am going to write a post. First I have to say I am somewhat ashamed of the childishness and DRAMA from E people who supposedly want to avoid all drama.

So for starters, I found out that Carmen was only going to come with Chris for a few hours, not over night, not even for the whole day, ( Read more... )

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eightydollsyell August 4 2010, 19:22:04 UTC

again, if somebody can put up with all of us then I figure they're welcome. Also husbands aren't the "flavor of the week".

shannonolippy August 6 2010, 03:44:25 UTC

Dan, I don't think it's fair to call us immature for stating our honesty about how we feel when you asked us specifically for how we felt about this request. YES it is your cabin and YES the decision ultimately lies with you and no one else. I totally understand and respect that, even if I should disagree with it ( ... )

punchykendra August 6 2010, 05:05:05 UTC

Dan doesn't think we sound childish because he's male... he thinks we sound childish because, if you go back and read everything, that's exactly how it ALL sounds and reads ( ... )

yander August 6 2010, 13:41:53 UTC

I was not calling anyone childish because of their feelings, I understand that you feel it will change the dynamic, I get that.
No matter how it was written, the comments come off as offensive and prejudice.
Basically all we need to know is yes or no, and if you say no, perhaps some compromise like it would be ok with me if it was just for the day.
Obviously for better or worse, the retreat has become something that it was never intended to be. As time goes on preserving the original feel of the retreat is going to become more difficult, and in the not so distant future, it’s going to become a choice of compromise or no retreat.
The group seems to pick and chose who they will make an exception for or not, and if that’s what you do, you’re going to offend someone.
Personally I think some of you owe Carmen an apology, but that is not my call.

shannonolippy August 8 2010, 05:45:32 UTC

@Kendra & Dan ( ... )

punchykendra August 10 2010, 14:39:48 UTC

@Shannon, again, read what I wrote. I think my proposal, simply respond "no" when a no suffices, may be a really good one. As I said, because the negative responses were written SO STRONGLY with such absolute resolution I felt that clarification was pointless. If everyone had just said "No, I don't know Chris." I, at the very least, would have felt more open to pointing out that Chris wasn't spending the night ( ... )