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[yangenigma]

The thought occasionally runs around in my head that I would like to have more girl-friends (girlfriends, gf's, ?)  I need some friends of the feminine persuasion that I can geek-out with.  I mean, I have a couple, but I only get to see them occasionally - usually because they A) have busy lives - which, I mean, who doesn't, right?  B) are sooo

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[katesmash]

I:

- spend my working time doing interior design (architectural, not curtain-picking crap), including specifying green products
- am interested in sustainable planning, urban design, architecture, and political ramifications of all of the above
- heart politics, community building, etc.
- read Sci-Fi novels (never read any before I met my husband and discovered his books)
- am starting to think that all but a select few individuals get squeamish when it comes to personal responsibility. This includes things like doing what they say they're going to, being honest above all else, and considering other people.
- am fascinated with celtic culture and lore

[yangenigma]

You sound like a fascinatin' lady! Thanks for replying with some info on yourself.

I would enjoy getting to know you more. Interested? So far we've only met briefly at a few parties. But I also try to keep in mind that you haz a family, and time is tight. Ideas?

[onyxlynxx]

I would love to see you more often. We never got a chance to know each other very well but you seem like an exceptionaly cool lady. *hugs*

[yangenigma]

Thanks! I would also like to get to know you better as well. I think one of our big disadvantages is distance - we're at opposite ends of town. I'm currently living down on South Lamar & Ben White.

But I am contemplating how to solve the problem of getting to see folks more often. A lot of times, what's difficult is that I don't realize I need to be social until the last minute. But lot of people tend to need to plan things in advance. We all lead such busy lives, that things are on a schedule and we have to slot friend-time in like they're appointments. Makes me a bit sad... I want to free-flow more.

[itza]

I've always wanted to get to know you better. Just seems harder for us self-sufficient introverts, eh

[yangenigma]

Ok, so how is it that we haven't gotten joined at the hip, yet

[itza]

wooooooooot!!

[fulguritus]

"A) have busy lives - which, I mean, who doesn't, right? B) are sooo much more extroverted than I am that their schedule is always full, or C) they joined a convent and are currently in seclusion"

I am all of the above, if you replace "joined a convent" with "bought a house".

I like you.
I'd like to hang out with you.
But the realist in me realizes I've been putting myself far outside of my comfort zones with how social I'm making myself be. I have not taken care of my rather inner introvert.
Although it's becoming more an more an outer introvert...

And I may have to stay in seclusion for a while before I can handle being around people one on one. Which barely makes sense, probably especially to a real introvert. But somehow I can feel less...engaged in a crowd. In a small group I have to be present. I just don't have the energy for it.

I know I need help with this and I'm clueless as to how to go about fixing this weirdness.

That all said, I hope once I can get past this fearful hidey-ness we can hang out.

[yangenigma]

Not to worry.
Do what you need to do.
My extrovert spurts come and go in cycles.
So right now, I'm riding the wave.

But yeah, when you're ready,
I'd like for us to make time to hang more!

[auralchick]

I feel your pain. As a union stagehand and in the audio department to boot, I deal with a 90% male population on a day to day basis. The few female friends I have are in the entertainment biz too, at different venues all with slightly different schedules etc, and so forth, I'm sure you get the point. I hardly know how to talk to women anymore--it makes me feel kind awkward, and then weird because I feel awkward

[yangenigma]

Hi