A long winded response, which mostly fails to convey my actual point, that romance is dead.martintenbonesJuly 9 2009, 12:31:31 UTC
1) In my mind, the most incongruous thing about marriage in today's society is its basis in the idea that people will keep their promises simply because they made them (to both God and the spouse).
A notion of honor, loyalty, and honesty that requires a person to actually labor over making a relationship work rather than giving up on it because you aren't able give up on it seems almost... naive, to most people. Whether it's because of a decrease in the fear of God, or because lying has become second nature to our society (why do we not expect people to be honest if it conflicts with their own self interest, and have people always been that way?), I feel like society sees stupidity in the idea of keeping a promise until the end of time simply because you said that you would
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Full disclosure: I only read part of the actual article, and none of the comments.
Also, I didn't say anything about weddings. l DO see [the expense of] those as culturally ingrained and rather silly. I'd love to have a big wedding, but one that involves the following:
Potluck catering by all involved No expensive clothing or decorations A lot of alcohol Probably being outside A bonfire
Yeah, I'm a hippie. We know this. But all the cool ceremonies have bonfires.
People forget that marriage in its inception was based on family. Marriage isn't really about the two people getting married. It's something done for your family. Originally to secure clan survival and prosperity. The concept of marrying out of love is noble, but was never intended. Hell people didn't even really have a say in how they got married
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A notion of honor, loyalty, and honesty that requires a person to actually labor over making a relationship work rather than giving up on it because you aren't able give up on it seems almost... naive, to most people. Whether it's because of a decrease in the fear of God, or because lying has become second nature to our society (why do we not expect people to be honest if it conflicts with their own self interest, and have people always been that way?), I feel like society sees stupidity in the idea of keeping a promise until the end of time simply because you said that you would ( ... )
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Also, I didn't say anything about weddings. l DO see [the expense of] those as culturally ingrained and rather silly. I'd love to have a big wedding, but one that involves the following:
Potluck catering by all involved
No expensive clothing or decorations
A lot of alcohol
Probably being outside
A bonfire
Yeah, I'm a hippie. We know this. But all the cool ceremonies have bonfires.
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Man, if I could sing, I would have just invented the perfect job.
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