Comments | yeoww: Another milestone and not a good one.

yeoww

Another milestone and not a good one.

Aug 15, 2011 23:46

Tonight is the first night my son Aaron was banned from my home for his behavior. He knows better than to shout loud enough for neighbors to hear or to get physical with me because that gets him a 5150 (police escort to a lockdown pysch ward), but telling me "Shut the F*ck up b*tch" when I remind him of chores is still abusive. This after he came ( Read more... )

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chaquir August 16 2011, 07:00:26 UTC

(((hugs)))

It must be so hard for you.. but i think you're doing the right thing

yeoww August 16 2011, 07:19:21 UTC

I think so too because it's all that's left. I'm getting lots of disapproval about it, though, as though the answer is to let him stay in my house no matter how he acts and then I doubt myself. But really. There's nothing left but this.

I am calm now. This morning I wasn't. The grief goes up and down. I guess it will be that way, for awhile.

ccupguy August 16 2011, 07:04:45 UTC

I think you're right in trying this approach. For all of your sakes, there have to be boundaries and all you did was set them for him. I sincerely hope he will come to understand that and he will learn to respect those boundaries. Hang in there and stay strong.
ccup

yeoww August 16 2011, 07:22:29 UTC

thank you. Yes, all I did was set the boundaries. I'm getting lots of commentary from people in my life and sometimes I feel like the wrongdoer. Blech. Hopefully I'll have more clarity soon.

whathisname August 16 2011, 08:04:12 UTC

I can't imagine what a difficult decision that must've been for you, but from everything I've heard and everything I know, you absolutely, absolutely did the right thing -- for him and for you. It's the only way anything will ever change. There was no other logical choice.

Heart-felt wishes, and prayers for both of you.

yeoww August 18 2011, 05:48:29 UTC

thank you. I believe I am doing the right thing, because others with more experience tell me I am. Actually, there weren't any other options.

donnickcottage August 16 2011, 12:48:53 UTC

You're doing the right thing.

yeoww August 18 2011, 05:49:03 UTC

thank you. I believe so too, just need to see it through.

thoughtsbykat August 16 2011, 13:27:53 UTC

I agree with everybody here, you are doing the right thing. Tough love is difficult. (Hugs)

yeoww August 18 2011, 05:50:02 UTC

*hugs you back* thanks. This too shall pass, right?