On the subject of letting things go.

[yjadd]

75-85% of the time, I don't tend to stay in any one mood for very long. If things upset me, I can cure myself of it with ten minutes and something I like. If things annoy me, I can walk away and start to feel better. Usually, within quarter of an hour of a shouting match, I want to apologise as I see the error of my ways. Recent events, however,

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[x_equals_speed]

At some point you need to find a way to deal with this. You'll encounter unfairness time and time again in the world and if you can't handle it effectively it'll cause you a major problem sooner or later. Sometimes things can't be fair for everyone. Some people don't care what's fair. Even the people who do will have different views of fairness. This is a problem that's not going to get better and the consequences of it are only going to get worse as you're involved in more and more important situations. You need to do something about reacting this way.

An' don't tell me that it's not possible for a person to change themselves. I used to assault people regularly and I've not struck a blow in anger for years. You yourself told me that you'd developed a belief in magic by choosing to. If you can do that then you can find a way to change this.

[yjadd]

This is true. It has also been brought to my attention that I tend to argue by proxy- making a big fuss over something pointless as a substitute for what I actually want to say.

Fixing that might make a good first step.

damage limitation

[raisedonadiet]

Personally, I would always say the best way to solve such things was to air them. Possibly take aside or even corner the person concerned and ensure that it is talked out. It's often a case of explaining your motivations, rather than sorting out the problem itself. The original problem may be small and it's the locking of horns after that's caused all the kerfuffle. This does require not getting wound up and some willingness of the other party. Could be difficult if the other person is trying to avoid the issue. But this is how I deal with things....but maybe that's because I am confrontational anyway...