How do you feel if you add someone and they never comment?
How do you feel if you're speaking on the phone and no one is responding, talking over a coffee and you're the only one chatting or waiting at the back fence and no one else ever arrives?
How do you feel if you add someone and they never comment?This depends on a couple of things... do they reply to my comments in their LJ and just not mine? or do they blithely ignore me always
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For what it's worth, there are some people I haven't filtered, but whose posts I respond to very infrequently. And I do have people filtered out of my default view, so it isn't just that I don't believe in using filters.
These do tend to be people I don't feel I have much in common with and whose entries I tend to scan, but I am still reading them on a regular basis.
There are also a few (generally the "writing for public consumption" type) who leave me feeling utterly intimidated and unworthy, so I rarely respond.
I admit, this is one of the reasons I do broad-interest polls from time to time - to try to determine who has me filtered out :)
I know that a couple of my friends have me filtered out - but at least they are polite, so there you go... As long as they trust me with their FO posts, I consider it an equal trust, I don't lose sleep over them not hanging on my every word... It does amuse me from time to time tho to point out the 'yep, that's why I posted that 3 days ago' incidents... :P
First of all -- phone call/coffee shop/back fence analogy = GENIUS.
And remember, you can't have an analogy without being anal.
In regards to having a "read before you friend me" post; if people friend you just after an intense post, and get all freaked because they think you're some sort of rabid she-bitch, and run screaming?
Eh, screw 'em. Really serious readers go back into your history, or wait for a few more posts, before making judgments.
Of course, SOME idiots will get their panties in a wad over one sentence, flounce off, and then come back 3 months later. *grin*
My LiveJournal isn't so much a typical blog as it is a "social thing"
And that's what keeps LJ alive, even through all of the deleting accounts things.
I have a few friends who shun these social networking sorts of sites and have their own personal blogs (often using a customized version of something like WordPress). They write and write and write, but rarely get comments -- and when they do they are often fly-by-night commenters, because there's no easy mechanism to tell them "yo, I replied to you, come back and let's chat!". I just couldn't do that. It is a lot more interesting to see "oh, X replied, my rant must have been good!" or "whoa, who's Y and how did they find me?".
(although, honestly, my journal here was practically comment-free for the first six months, because I didn't know anyone in real life on LJ and found it difficult to find people -- searching based on interest doesn't work well at all.. luckily I eventually managed to form a circle of friends)
I went from my own HTML coded site to blogger to movabletype back to blogger then got sucked into LJ due to mschaos and nephthys510 being here...
I used to equate it to the AOL of blogging - it was more communal in nature than the lonely blog... The thing that kept me here though really, more than anything else, was the Friends view... the ability to aggregate all of my friends' posts was a HUGE draw.
Then I started finding more and more interesting people here... and one day, not unlike you, I discovered that I had a circle of friends here.
That's exactly it, the friends view is superior to checking out dozens of sites every day. I think it works better than RSS does.. of course, it should, since it is all within one site!
And, PS: oh, I'll be here until someone blinds me and chops off my hands. ;-) I haven't found a need to de-friend anyone in over three years (although I am sorely tempted with docbrite, who moved from intriguing abstract posts to continual whines about how the country treats New Orleans after Katrina.. but I'm hoping she'll bounce back).
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How do you feel if you're speaking on the phone and no one is responding, talking over a coffee and you're the only one chatting or waiting at the back fence and no one else ever arrives?
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How do you feel if you add someone and they never comment?This depends on a couple of things... do they reply to my comments in their LJ and just not mine? or do they blithely ignore me always ( ... )
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These do tend to be people I don't feel I have much in common with and whose entries I tend to scan, but I am still reading them on a regular basis.
There are also a few (generally the "writing for public consumption" type) who leave me feeling utterly intimidated and unworthy, so I rarely respond.
I admit, this is one of the reasons I do broad-interest polls from time to time - to try to determine who has me filtered out :)
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As long as they trust me with their FO posts, I consider it an equal trust, I don't lose sleep over them not hanging on my every word...
It does amuse me from time to time tho to point out the 'yep, that's why I posted that 3 days ago' incidents... :P
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And remember, you can't have an analogy without being anal.
In regards to having a "read before you friend me" post; if people friend you just after an intense post, and get all freaked because they think you're some sort of rabid she-bitch, and run screaming?
Eh, screw 'em. Really serious readers go back into your history, or wait for a few more posts, before making judgments.
Of course, SOME idiots will get their panties in a wad over one sentence, flounce off, and then come back 3 months later. *grin*
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And I'm glad you're back!! :)
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Why don't you just use this post as your first post new friends can read. It kind of sums it all up neatly.
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And today's pastry is a nice day old chocolate croissant...
But damn woman - I can tell by the icon photo that you are eschewing those lately - lookin' HOT!!! :)
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And that's what keeps LJ alive, even through all of the deleting accounts things.
I have a few friends who shun these social networking sorts of sites and have their own personal blogs (often using a customized version of something like WordPress). They write and write and write, but rarely get comments -- and when they do they are often fly-by-night commenters, because there's no easy mechanism to tell them "yo, I replied to you, come back and let's chat!". I just couldn't do that. It is a lot more interesting to see "oh, X replied, my rant must have been good!" or "whoa, who's Y and how did they find me?".
(although, honestly, my journal here was practically comment-free for the first six months, because I didn't know anyone in real life on LJ and found it difficult to find people -- searching based on interest doesn't work well at all.. luckily I eventually managed to form a circle of friends)
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I used to equate it to the AOL of blogging - it was more communal in nature than the lonely blog...
The thing that kept me here though really, more than anything else, was the Friends view... the ability to aggregate all of my friends' posts was a HUGE draw.
Then I started finding more and more interesting people here... and one day, not unlike you, I discovered that I had a circle of friends here.
p.s. still glad you are amongst them!!! :)
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And, PS: oh, I'll be here until someone blinds me and chops off my hands. ;-) I haven't found a need to de-friend anyone in over three years (although I am sorely tempted with docbrite, who moved from intriguing abstract posts to continual whines about how the country treats New Orleans after Katrina.. but I'm hoping she'll bounce back).
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"A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds." - Ralph Waldo Emerson :)
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