What makes you feel special?

[yodanshadancer]

Last night, the guy I'm seeing dropped by for a few minutes to give me a honey bun. I love honey buns but I stopped buying them about a year ago because they are SO BAD. I'll make an exception and eat this one though. :)  And he is pretty good at demonstrating his affection to me... just reading about last night, I can see a couple of examples of

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[angryjonny]

What does or did your significant other do to show affection or make you feel special/loved? What does your SO do that you love? What do you do for them to let them know that you love them?

The answer to all three of these questions is the same: another girl

[yodanshadancer]

LOL

As long as she isn't as pretty as you, I'm sure. :P

[ihvpave]

hmm.

Well, there are a zillion ways - it's all in how you read what your SO is doing and if you notice and recognise it as being special to you.

Like, The Yuppy Puppy was all about Grand Romantic gestures - a weekend at a bed and breakfast, candles and rose petals everywhere for a romantic night in, flowers at the office and so on. To him, those were romantic things. To me... Not so much - they felt like what he thought "romantic" should be, not what romantic would be for me, specifically. One of my exes was all about presents that he thought I should have - not because it was necessarily something I wanted, but 'cos he thought I should want it - so they weren't as important to me as the ex who was also a "gifter" but who put serious time and thought into what I like and want and would enjoy (which, even when he missed, I appreciated much more, 'cos I could see where the thought went into it

[yodanshadancer]

Your Yuppy Puppy reminds me a lil bit of my ex-hubby in the beginning of our relationship. In the beginning, he would bring me a rose each and every time he saw me... even if he saw me 3 times in one day... Ok... Let's be practical here. :) It isn't that I don't appreciate it but... One a week... or a season even, is good enough for me. :) I'm more of a carnation girl anyway. Sure it may be a funeral flower but they smell better and are pretty much much longer.

I love thoughtful gifts too, even if they are a little off the mark.

[ablemagawitch]

While the big things are nice, its simple little gestures and support that make the biggest difference. One of the best was she hauled her ass out to meet us climbing. Now understand climbing areas are scattered and we're constantly moving but she came to hang out with us bag a couple of routes. She went out of her way to find us/join in ( there wasn't cellphone and service was spotty there anyway ( mumble f'ing mumble cliffs mumble mumble) with something she wasn't big on but knew was important/large part of my life.
A recommendation is when they call over something small and trivial go help/be with them. The prolly didn't just call to whine. Sometimes you're overwhelmed by stupid little shit and just knowing somebody is there(even if they can't do anything) makes you feel better. Part of making someone feel special is making them feel like you two are a crew/team

Of course the standard recommendations of wearing shiny stuff, big hoppy earrings, bright red lipstick while giving oral should apply......

[yodanshadancer]

Ok... Rock climbing? -That- is love. :)

I like the being-part-of-a-crew/team thing. That makes a lot of sense and I can totally agree... I just hadn't thought of it like that before.

Ok... I have the lipstick but not the hoppy earrings... *going to Family Dollar to buy earrings*

Thanks for the pointers. :)

[ablemagawitch]

You gotta hit claire's for the gody ones

[yodanshadancer]

LOL

...next time I'm at the mall...

[roonie]

Mine and Josh's ideas of "romance" are different, but it's not a bad thing!! I think it is sweet when he shows me "my kind" of romantic because I know he stepped out of his comfort level a bit for me.

But honestly, I love the subtle stuff! Like he will take me out for ice cream when I'm having a bad day or something like that, just to get me out of the house and away from things for a while. (this is extra sweet because he doesn't actually like ice cream lol!)

[yodanshadancer]

That's awesome! Double points for doing something he doesn't like. :)

[msanborn]

when they aren't lying to me.

[yodanshadancer]

I could see that as a positive... ;)