Comments | young_widows: some advise would be amazing right now!

blondedebombe in young_widows

some advise would be amazing right now!

Aug 08, 2009 12:24

next month, on the 11th it will be a year since my Bill passed. We had two babies. He had a best friend Bill talked to everyday and I've know him since the day I meet Bill, over 5 years ago now. We have become really close, we enjoy each others company and it has lead to more than a friendship, this is the first time i have truely been happy since ( Read more... )

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journeygirl101 August 8 2009, 16:34:43 UTC

i dont think theres anything wrong with this. i think bill would want you to be happy and even better it makes two people he cares about happy. so why not? His family probably wont want you to be with anyone at all, but you cant live life like that, they cant see it now but im sure they will relax and get over it. in time...

queendisko August 8 2009, 22:45:43 UTC

I'm very sorry for your loss. And I'm also sorry to mention this, but you need to be proactive about this situation. You need to counter with legal action against threats and harrassment. His family seems very hurt that you're moving on without Bill. They're not in the same place with their grieving, and it sounds to me like they're not equipped to handle grief and hardship with a healthy attitude. It's not easy, no matter how it goes, but if you're emotionally unhealthy, it's ten times worse. I wouldn't be surprised if they're in a huge amount of denial over his death, and don't like to speak of it ( ... )

blondedebombe August 10 2009, 01:17:32 UTC

me and bryan just felt comfort in being around each other, bill was a brother to him, and he was brother to bill, more than his real brother ever, its so sad. i have cut them out, bills brother scares me though and soon he will be living not to far from me. since his brother died he has collected guns and has said many things of hurting other people including himself. i never thought this would happen, but they will not be a part of me and my kids life acting like this. life is to short and i thought they would have relised this losing bill! i guess not :(

lil_ms_drama August 8 2009, 22:55:07 UTC

I'm going to be blunt here because I have experience with this situation. The only differences are that I didn't have any kids with Cliff and it was only about 2 months after for me ( ... )

blondedebombe August 10 2009, 01:14:37 UTC

I had to tell them to fuck off, I am the mother of his kids to get the kids they go through me, i had to tell bills brother and his wife im done with them and they will play no roll in mine or my kids life treating me like that. bills brother was so cold and nasty to me, it just makes me so sad!

fitfool October 14 2009, 12:16:31 UTC

I'm so sorry to read this. It's hard enough trying to make a life for yourself again without having people close to you stand in your way. I think you're right...Bill loved you and wanted you to be happy. If it also brings happiness to his best friend, then so much the better. There is room to both love Bill and welcome someone else into your life too. I wish his family could realize that.

divamelisande November 13 2009, 18:36:21 UTC

I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine what this must be like for you... They need to realise that although they have lost a son and brother, you have lost a husband... which is a different thing entirely. It is foolish for them to expect you to devote the rest of your life to grieving for Bill and not allow yourself any happiness.

Surely Bill would be so happy to see you happy. I hope this situation works out for the best and that your in-laws can quit being so irrational and allowing their pain and grief to take over their sense of reason.