Mostly Rhetorical Question

[becka_kitty]

Will I ever stop measuring time in how long since the accident?

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Mostly Rhetorical Question

[roseskill]

I'm almost twenty-two months out. Around sixteen months, that ended for me. It wasn't anything conscious, but for about six months now, i've actually had to stop and think about how far out i am. It feels weird, like i should be able to say how far out i am, down to the second, at any given moment. But, for me at least, this has been quite free-ing.

Re: Mostly Rhetorical Question

[amand_r]

Yeah, for me it was 4 years this April, and I had to think about it.

Then I kind of wish I hadn't thought about it.

Mostly Rhetorical Question

[roseskill]

Yea, i hear you. It stinks when you have to stop and think about how far out you are, but moreso when the realization settles in. I dunno if i'll ever have to think about the years, seeing as how my husband passed two days before my twenty-sixth birthday. That's not something that falls out of even my spotty memory. Either way. It sucks, but what doesn't lol.

Re: Mostly Rhetorical Question

[amand_r]

Yeah, my husband killed himself the day after we found out I was pregnant, so I often think about that when I look at my kid. I don't know what I'm going to say to her, because no matter how much it wasn't about that, to the outsider it sure looks like it sometimes.

That sucks for it to be so close to your birthday. It's like, way to ruin a holiday every year.

[smileyali]

My therapist splits the world into people who do dates and people who don't. I'm afraid if you are a date person - you know, never forgets a sibling's birthday then it's likely to stick with you. I was widowed 4 and a half years ago, and the significant dates never get forgotten.

[divamelisande]

I'm well aware that it's nearly 3 years since he died. I don't measure every day, every hour, every significant moment the way I used to, but I never forget significant dates.