Comments | yummymommy: talking out loud

yummymommy

talking out loud

Nov 06, 2005 19:03

I don't believe in double standards. I believe that not every one is created equal. As humans we all hold equal value and deserve equal opportunities (though even that can be argued) but we are individuals. As individuals we have our own unique set of needs, strengths, contributions and desires. Thus, what is good for the goose may not be good for ( Read more... )

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arwenoid November 7 2005, 07:29:15 UTC

I dislike double standards in almost any form. In fact, I just wrote a paper on that ( ... )

abracas November 7 2005, 15:51:51 UTC

I get where you're comig from on this, but as Donna sez "it has to still be equal in a partnership".

I think Unhealthy compromise is where partner A restricts Partner B behavior and actions out of fear.

I think Healthy compromise is where Partner B restricts their own behavior and actions out of love and respect.

It's not so much about double standards as it is about taking the time to consider the effects of your actions on one you love, for me the risk of hurting someone outweighs my own personal pleasure.

captain_bonk November 9 2005, 01:22:30 UTC

I think Healthy compromise is where Partner B restricts their own behavior and actions out of love and respect.

I agree with this and Donna's position to a point. The double standard didn't come into play because Donna simply "didn't really care if he slept with other people" while she had to remain monogamous at her partners request. In this situation she was doing the 'healthy' compromise. But now the question is, healthy to who? Healthy to the relationship? Healthy for him? Cudos to relationship building ( ... )